DH & a female colleague

[Yhu67]

Am I being ridiculous, but my DH is often phoning his female colleague when WFH. He wouldn’t introduce me to her when I visited the office. I don’t think he’s up to anything especially suspicious but when I overhear him sometimes he sounds surprisingly close to her.

What was the context of not introducing you to her at the office? Were you introduced to everyone but not her? Or did you specifically ask him to be introduced to just her and he said no because it would have been a bit weird to do?

I have several colleagues that I call frequently when I WFH, because we need to discuss the stuff we’re working on. Are the calls not about work?

Yes I’m curious. I only work with men and I’m good mates with a few, chat on the phone, whinge, gossip, laugh, go out for drinks. I don’t see why I shouldn’t ss I’m a woman.

It was a family day in the office, and I already knew many of his colleagues. He’s been mentioning her at home a lot but when I came to the office he just avoided her or me meeting her.
I don’t listen to all their conversations but I did overhear something along the lines of: “I am just like you”, “you are far too sophisticated for me”, “let’s meet a client and get out of the office for a bit.” He doesn’t stay after work. I don’t know. Maybe it’s normal and nothing.

Have you seen a photo of her? Do you know if she's married or in a relationship?

I wouldn't discount your gut feeling. Mentionitus is a thing...

I have seen her in the office. Tall, skinny, pretty. Married as well. They are both senior at work so have a lot to talk about but don’t get the comments he’s making.

Something is making you uncomfortable about this.

I would be the same. Mentioning her a lot but not introducing you is suspicious imo.

All the experts on affairs say it's literally about opportunity. Nothing to do with morals or being a bad person...and to protect your marriage from this never put yourself in a position of being too friendly with someone you could technically and legally have sex with.