I'm quite a sociable person and have a wide group of friends mixed friends. I'd say my closest friends among them are women, but there are a few men I'd count as decent friends too.
The ones I am closest too are single because I am very careful to maintain boundaries with married men. I wouldn't, for example have the kind of "feelings" conversations with a married man that I do with my single or female friends. I wouldn't go on a 121 outing with a married man or message him outside of our groups.
I'm nothing special, I'm happy with my single life and (possibly) give off vibes that I'm not interested in the single men, but none of them, from my friendship groups, have ever made a move on me.
The married men OTOH! The latest one is someone I've always thought of as a a good, decent man, smitten with and respectful of his DW. I was wrong, again.
I'm not saying it happens every week, but over 20 years, probably half a dozen times a man I thought of as a decent person and friend has done this.
Is it me? Do I have all the wrong friends? Or are all men thoroughly disappointing in the end?