Has anyone had a child excluded from school and then had things turn out ok?

[Jiminycrickets]

Our young teen (ADHD) has been excluded from his private school. He has ADHD and it was due to him being disruptive and speaking disrespectfully. He has been struggling to manage his impulsivity or anticipate consequences. It is a very old fashioned, strict school.
We are homeschooling and doing a social skills workshop and trying our best to help him.
i am worried that he has such a deficit that he will be unemployable. He’s not suitable for
mainstream education (they clearly labeled him as bad and wanted him gone).
He’s still so young, I know.
im hoping for positive stories about kids who struggled but we’re still ok in the end.
i want him to have a good life.
can anyone share?

My grandson excluded permanently, the school had to pay private tutor 10 hrs week best thing to happen

School is not for everyone. He may have just been released from years of attempting to fit into something that he just could not. I don't know what the practical answers are, but emotionally I would just take a little time now to reflect and decompress. Also, none of us know the future so keep reminding yourself of that if you can. Just see how things go.

I worked in a PRU, so we saw the "worst" of school exclusions. I can't say we saved everyone, but there are many many success stories.

One of our former pupils now comes back working for our IT support company and another comes to service the fire alarm.

One turned up recently when the head employed a local firm to fix her roof and one wonderfully chatty girl now works as hairdresser to celebs I've actually heard of!

This is so lovely to hear! It’s such a nice way to put it, released. He’s been so much happier and relaxed. He just can’t currently cope with school. I do need to stop looking negatively into the future, that is true.

We are in a similar situation, though our former private school gave us the option to leave before they issued another exclusion. We could see our card was marked and that they had no interest in safeguarding our child so chose to leave. Home schooling at the moment because we don't think another school will take him with the reference our former school would provide.

I had a private school refuse to take child before they'd even met her. Local comp was forced to take her even though they thought they couldn't meet her needs. Now, 3 years later she is managing in mainstream. Turns out the comp was actually very switched on with a kind and flexible approach that didn't let go of boundaries. I think she will pass some gcses and choose a practical course post 16. It's not easy but it's a lot better than I thought it would be when she was 11. Your local school will have experience that the private school doesn't.

That seems like a fairly minor reason to exclude a child.

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For me son wasn't permanently excluded but we ran pretty close throughout secondary. They did ask him to go on study leave in the January before exams because he never saw the point of revision and he was making it impossible for others to study.
He did well in his GCSEs, did A levels with minimum effort and avoided the possible exclusion issue again largely because he didn't turn up very often, got unconditional offers for uni that he turned down.
Worked for Local Government who funded degree and Masters, left once he wasn't going to have to repay uni fees. Earns six figures in private sector now. Disliked school because he found it tedious but thrives in a work environment.

Your poor DS. It sounds like that school wasn't right for him or his needs? Perhaps a blessing in disguise for him. It sounds like he has very strong support from a loving and caring home and, while I don't have a personal exclusion/ success story to share, I feel quite sure that he will do just grand.