Would you have been offended by this parenting comment?

[Twiklo]

I'm pregnant and hormonal so I might not be rational right now. But this actually hurt my feelings.

My husband was laughing at a parenting joke and shared it with me, he then added me that he can relate because when he leaves me alone with our 2 year old son, our son becomes the one who is in charge and not me.

He doesn't live with us at the moment and won't for a while so I'm the one who does the parenting/childcare right now so it hurts even more somewhat.

Why doesn’t he live with you?

No, I agree with you, that was mean.
Let him know you’re upset

Is your son in charge?

Sounds like a fairly untypical relationship, is this working?

He works away

He has no right commenting on your parenting when he effectively isn't one...

He can be stubborn, throws tantrums and things like that but I like to believe I don't give in and give him a structured and organized life with boundaries.
It's not a very easy age and he's non verbal awaiting autism assessment and I do admit I struggle sometimes but I try not to show it too much

I would have angrily responded that I was doing 100% more parenting than him at the moment so he should just shut up.

are you sure he didn’t mean it as an affectionate joke - like when people say ‘she can wind you round her little finger’ or was it a criticism? Because solo parenting a non-verbal, possibly autistic 2 year old is really HARD.

‘Often a true word said in jest…’

He thinks you’re not assertive enough. But if you’re secure in your parenting ability why are you so sensitive to it?

He works away constantly?

I'm imaging it's really not easy parenting a 2 year old with suspected ASD and that he really, really isn't in a position to judge your parenting in any way. He probably thinks he'd whip your son into shape and that all that ASD nonsense would be sorted out if only he was there to shout a bit more and be a lot stricter.

I doubt he's got a fucking clue on how to parent an autistic 2 year old and I'd recommend reading up as much as you can to help you understand ASD and the best ways to help ds.

This.

Solo parenting a non verbal potentially autistic two year old while pregnant must be incredibly hard. He hasn't got the slightest clue. How much does he do alone with the toddler?