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Is this abusive parenting?

38 replies

Plsdiscuss · 01/05/2024 07:38

Would love to hear your thoughts

Is this abusive parenting?
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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 01/05/2024 15:01

MyPerfectHotel · 01/05/2024 14:54

@MinervaMcGonagallsCat And they're wrong to do so

Do you not share any beliefs with your children?

EcoChica1980 · 01/05/2024 15:06

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 01/05/2024 13:10

Or chose to be a Christian
Or a vegan
Or a communist
Or a radical environmentalist
Or a Manchester United fan

Yet families bring their children up with different beliefs in every home in the land

These are hardly comparable things.

frozendaisy · 01/05/2024 15:14

God help the kid's teachers!

frozendaisy · 01/05/2024 15:43

This is just goady online nonsense.

There was a tome when progress with acceptance was being made but now more and more people are judging and feeling emboldened to be phobic, any type of phobic, but more people think their opinions are "expert" across a wide variety of topics.

Is this abusive parenting? Unlikely. It's unnecessary correcting a stranger for a perfectly innocent comment. And you can see a route to the child thinking they are the most special child whom ever existed, which won't do them any favours, but abusive shouldn't be flung about it dilutes actual abuse when it is.

Arraminta · 01/05/2024 15:48

Way to go, progressive parents. You've guaranteed your child will get bullied at school.

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 01/05/2024 16:07

Arraminta · 01/05/2024 15:48

Way to go, progressive parents. You've guaranteed your child will get bullied at school.

Love how you blame the 'progressive parents' there and not the parents of the bullies.

WhimsicalMoth · 01/05/2024 16:31

Hasn't decided what he wants to be yet 🫣 that's because you can't decide... science does that part for you. It's part of the life all inclusive package

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 01/05/2024 16:49

@EcoChica1980

These are hardly comparable things.

Only because you personally find them less offensive. Whereas another poster who replied to me thought it would be wrong to share or teach any of those beliefs in the home.

itsgettingweird · 01/05/2024 17:08

The problem is the same as religion. Some translate things and take it to extreme.

Doesn't mean all will and doesn't mean we shouldn't have religion.

We should actually all be non binary. Not is the way it's taken but if we want to go back to where we actually started to remove gender stereotypes we need to remove gender stereotypes.

Dressing your male or female toddler in a certain way doesn't actually do this. Allowing them to play with what they want in any colour does. But the minute you start to label that or question their gender preferences you once again enter the gender stereotype area.

I'm waiting for those who obsess about being gender non binary as some kind of important thing to realise they are the ones reinforcing gender stereotypes.

Their 2yo is never likely to choose a gender. They are likely just to grow up being themselves like the rest of us!

Those who genuinely grow up feeling uncomfortable in their body and with their sex should be supported to explore this. The same way those who become religious extremists often have has difficult backgrounds and that's why they are easy to recruit and why prevent looks at vulnerability that may be a risk factor.

berksandbeyond · 01/05/2024 17:09

Yes I think it’s child abuse and I would have no patience for anyone like that in my life

Andthereyougo · 01/05/2024 17:15

I see it as attention seeking.
I left my children to decide if they wanted to be vegetarian, vegan, of any religion or none as well as liking or disliking all sport activities, singing, dancing, etc etc I suppose at any time they could have decided to call themselves boy, girl, non binary, or Martian. Difference is I didn’t feel the need to tell the whole bloody world about it.
Some people are just really hard work.

Arraminta · 02/05/2024 17:09

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 01/05/2024 16:07

Love how you blame the 'progressive parents' there and not the parents of the bullies.

Yes, I'm absolutely blaming the progressive parents.

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 02/05/2024 17:33

Arraminta · 02/05/2024 17:09

Yes, I'm absolutely blaming the progressive parents.

The fact you don't lay any blame at the door of the bullies, or their parents tells me everything I need to know about you.

Bet the school has you on speed dial.

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