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Am I being selfish thinking this way

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Sosad441 · 30/04/2024 11:02

Am I being selfish? Probably am. But anyway. Ex has our 2 boys every other weekend. Takes them Fri drops then back Sunday tea time. If its a bank holiday or simlar he will sometimes bring then back Monday teatime instead.. so I asked him if he is bringing them back on Monday this weekend. He said hes not sure but if it is Monday it will be early Monday morning ie 8am drop off . Because he wants Monday to chill out . Because he works and wants a rest.

I have the boys all the other times including holidays. He cant have them in school holidays due to work. In general terms I'm happy with the set up . But my selfish part Is thinking why not just have your kids for an extra day. He needs a rest Because he works. And I don't, I do nothing all day I just sit on my arse . He has no understanding of my other children who have complex needs and my adult dd and her child have a lot of support from me due to their needs as well.its a proper fuck up mentally and emotionally.

I know i have contradicted myself by saying I'm happy with the set up then moaning about it. I think I'm just a little pissed of with the I'm alright Jack and he has no responsibility as such as mummy does everything for him. I'm probably jealous 🤣

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Pr1mr0se · 30/04/2024 13:58

I don't think you are being selfish. You and your kids will benefit from time when you can have a break and relax. When is your rest time?

Does your ex have the kids at all during his holiday time? I think he should. Not all of it but if he was living with you he'd have to step up.

Jellycatspyjamas · 30/04/2024 15:21

In fairness the needs of your other children aren’t really his concern.

Sosad441 · 30/04/2024 15:48

Jellycatspyjamas · 30/04/2024 15:21

In fairness the needs of your other children aren’t really his concern.

Yes definitely agree with that . It was more that he thinks I basically do nothing.

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OhHelloMiss · 30/04/2024 15:52

Why would he get up so early on Monday if he wants to use the day to rest?

Surely he would drop them back sun night ?

Sosad441 · 30/04/2024 15:56

OhHelloMiss · 30/04/2024 15:52

Why would he get up so early on Monday if he wants to use the day to rest?

Surely he would drop them back sun night ?

I don't even know

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