If I don't drink, will everyone assume I'm pregnant?

[NutSmeg]

One of the women in my book group is getting married next month. Next week, book group is going out for a meal for it.

Book group meets in the pub on a weekday night. Non-drinking is the norm.
I only drink at book group when its our Christmas meeting.

We went out for a meal in January and I drank alcohol there.

What I mean is - book group knows I'm not tee-total.

If I don't drink next week, will everyone assume I'm pregnant? I'm 37.

I think PP misunderstood me - or I didn't make myself clear.

I don't understand why OP is worried people will think she's pregnant. I thought she was pregnant, but didn't want people to know. So needed some suggestions of what to say.

Of course you're allowed not to drink. Just say you don't fancy it.

She said she usually drinks at the weekend one so I was just asking why not on this special occasion.

Yep. That old chestnut.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator the problem is, this isn't something you've come up with, everyone has heard of that as an excuse for not drinking when actually you're pregnant for the last 25 years. If I heard that, I'd immediately think "out of date excuse for not drinking when pregnant ". As a pp said most antibiotics don't react badly to a glass of wine anymore anyway. More current social conventions are just not drinking alcohol at every social occasion, which is why other posters have suggested that, as in " I'm just not drinking tonight " It's absolutely the norm in 2024.

What’s the actual reason you don’t want to drink? If anyone asks or makes a comment, just explain why.

I’m early 40s so maybe aging out of the ‘possibly pregnant’ years but I don’t drink anymore when I used to drink a lot. And other than my dd, no one’s really ever asked why I stopped. I don’t think anyone assumed I was pregnant either but I don’t know. They certainly haven’t verbalised it in anyway. Lots of people don’t drink now, so I don’t think it’s as big of a deal as you’re imagining.

No.

I was just going to suggest she tell them the actual real reason as to why she isn't drinking.