Did this guy do it on purpose?

[autisticconsultant]

I know how to avoid this next time: don't put anything in writing

20 year old colleague did this to me...Advice
I complained in writing to a group chat of my peers that I was struggling with this piece of work and it was really annoying ( next time, I would not complain in writing again)

The person, lets call him Conrad, then tells the manager in charge of this work exactly what I wrote

I know this cos the manager emailed me with what I had written, angry at my poor attitude

I asked in the group chat who told the manager

Conrad said he did it and it was to help me

I asked him how telling the manager what I wrote would help me... I pointed out that if he really wanted to help he would have asked me instead of going behind my back to the manager

He told me that if it weren't bc of him, I'd have been working till 12am, a lie since he did the same job as me before and knows I wouldn't take so long, he knows I exaggerated

He is the son of a high-ranking manager who used to work at the law firm and his father now plays golf with the partner of the law firm

He is quite good at his job and has a reputation as brown-noser who likes volunteering to do extra work and sucking up to managers

I confronted him about this on the group chat in front of everyone.... he told me he thought he helped me roll of this task ( he didn't, I still had to do it) by telling the manager about my exaggerated complaints

After some back and forth with me, he left the group chat, declaring that 'I am full of shit and he frankly does not have time for this'

Nobody defended him. His friend left the group chat in solidarity with him but nobody else did.

What drama! I can't wait for episode 2. 🍿

hahhahaha

Have you sold the rights to Netflix or Disney?

Is your school doing a reenactment of The Apprentice this week?

You showed poor judgement putting it in the group chat.

Did who do what "on purpose"?

I asked in the group chat who told the manager
Conrad said he did it and it was to help me

Do you think that he might have done it by accident?

he told me he thought he helped me roll of this task

Hope your points raised in the group chat are a little bit clearer than this.

I think episode 5 will see OP working late with Conrad. They are both studying the small print of a document, they look up realising their faces are very close together. They gaze into each others eyes and slowly bring their lips together but just before they kiss a cleaner comes in and interrupts them.

If I were you I would leave the group chat. Those types of things always cause issues as people struggle to be professional, thinking they are chatting with their mates and then as you have experienced it backfires.

Group chats - a big no, no from me and the family as is facebook

And the OP smacks Conrad across the face and says 'How dare you? I'm NOT that kind of girl!' Whereupon they simmer sulkily at one another till the next episode.

Honestly, OP, if you can't even describe this situation clearly, or see why whining in writing on a group chat is a realy bad idea, I'm not surprised you're struggling with writing whatever it is.

I haven't read the full script for episode 7 but it involves OP, Conrad and the photocopier!

Group work chats are not the place to complain about your work or say you find it annoying. Always assume that whatever you say on anything like this will get back to management.

Why do I keep showing poor judgement? Is it to do with my autism?

Well, strangers on the internet aren't going to know, OP. Surely you can see it is both unprofessional to complain about work tasks in a group chat, and gives any ill-disposed colleagues ample ammunition to get you in trouble under the guise of 'helping'. In future, if there's something you're struggling with, get help with it.

If Conrad is 20 and has been in the company long enough that he previously did the work you’re now doing, I’m guessing you’re very young and in a junior role so probably somewhat naive.

If you have issues with your work, you take that to your manager and nobody else.

So, don't put anything in a group chat that you wouldn't consider to be public info. I think you've already realised that.

"Conrad" was a twat for feeding back to your manager and for pretending that it was to help you. I would keep him at arms length and just maintain a professional work related relationship with him for now.

What is the purpose of the group chat? Is it for work discussions on a work platform? Or is it a group set up by one of your peers just for non-work chat, on a non-work platform?

for problems re work

I was told some great advice early in my career- don't put anything in writing at work (including private chats at work) that you wouldn't be happy with being a) stuck up on the wall as a poster of b) read out in a courtroom.

This guys is a dick definitely, but take this as a valuable lesson. You should never assume any privacy in written communication with colleagues. It would all be discoverable in a lawsuit anyway.

I think it's best when you don't put things like complaints into group chats, only put small talk or things you would be happy saying to a person's face . If you have issues with someone what I'd do is ask them for a chat and discuss problems in private.