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Dating a Distant Relative

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ifeelgood · 29/04/2024 00:06

What is the nearest relative you would date (if at all)?

A friend dated her dad's cousin, which means that my friend's grandfather and her "ex-partner's" dad are brothers!

I think it sounds even weirder as far as her ex is concerned. He was dating his uncle's grandchild.

My friend and her ex were similar ages.

I find this odd.

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Strawberrycheesecake7 · 29/04/2024 00:13

Personally I wouldn’t at all. It would be a massive turn off for me if I knew they were related to me in any way. Though looking at it more objectively, I think anything from third cousins onwards is probably fine. I know who most of my second cousins are and consider them distant family. I couldn’t tell you if I have any third cousins, though I probably do.

LBFseBrom · 29/04/2024 00:16

I can't imagine it but a distant cousin, like third, who I didn't know in childhood would be OK I think.

aurynne · 29/04/2024 00:29

As I am having no children I wouldn't be bothered to find I was dating a distant relative I didn't know. Any relative I know would have way too much "ick" factor to even consider dating.

But I once felt attraction for a second cousin I knew but hadn't seen since childhood, basically decades ago, so the rule could be broken.

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 29/04/2024 00:57

With large families if you spend a lot of time with your cultural community it's a certainty that SOMEONE will marry a relative of sorts.

I have well over 50 first cousins, and have never bothered to count second and third cousins, into the many hundreds.

I personally solved the problem from marrying someone outside of the community.

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