What do I say?

[Stressedgiraffe]

Met my semi estranged cousin today had a lovely time but things went wierd when I mentioned last Xmas.
As far as I was aware my parents spend Xmas day with her family my parents and her fil at a hotel.
She thought I spent Xmas with my family at a hotel.
She spend Xmas with her family and my parents at her house no fil
And we spent it at home.

It freaked her out. And is going to tell her mum my aunt.
Wtf do I do now?

My head hurts...

Mine too.

So you thought she was at a hotel and she thought you were? Sounds like crossed wires somewhere and not worthy of a drama

If you say what you said here no one will understand anyway. Perhaps just say nothing to anyone?

But both things came from my mother who lied to both of us. She's been trying to keep us estranged for no reason I can see

I don't understand what you mean?

didn't understand a word, sorry. You are going to have to be a lot clearer if you have a problem that you want to discuss

Um….

I don’t entirely understand, but - say nothing. It’s your Mum’s problem!

My mother lied to both of us about Xmas and what was going on. I personally don't give a stuff if she wants to spend it with my cousin rather than me but she obviously felt the need to lie about why she didn't want to spend it with us. She then lied to my cousin that I was busy so couldn't spend it with her.

Sorry. Not understanding who's spending time with who where either

Basically

Ops mum said...

Cousin was spending Xmas with her family ( I'm assuming household family not wider family )

And

That Ops mum was spending Xmas at a hotel with her cousins parents and FIL

And

She told the cousin that OP was at a hotel for xmas

When actually

OPS cousin was in fact at home with OPS parents and no FIL

AND

OPs mother told the cousin that op was at a hotel when she was actually at home

@haveaniceday321 that makes it clearer.
The trouble now is my cousin is going to tell her mum ( my aunt) that my mum lied.
Therefore can she trust what my mum says about me and what I've been doing ?

Honestly I wouldn't worry about it. Your cousin is going to tell no matter what you say and maybe your aunt will confront your mum about lying. You could give your mum the heads up that's about all you could do. It is odd though that your mum lied if anyone should be annoyed though it should be you

I don't think anyone should be trusting what your mum says about anything.

Whys her telling your aunt an issue. Your mum has lied and should be asked why. In your position I'd of called my mum by now and ask what was the purpose for lying to everyone. Was it because she didn't want your family spending Xmas with them all at your cousins? I don't understand why she lied to you that she was going to the hotel tho, because surely if she was you still could of attended had you wanted to?

Meet your cousin.. Bet they all know your dm is a liar....