Ex created a snapchat account using 5 year old DD's name

[fleurcamomille]

Hello everyone!

So, last night I received a notification from snapchat indicating that my ex husband created a new account using 5 year old DD's first and last name as a login username: 'katiesmith' (not real name) and kept the display name as his own 'John', initially. However, he later changed it to DD's initials followed by some numbers - 'KS123'.

Bit of background info for context - he moved overseas and isn't really involved in DD's life. The last time he visited was in January after almost a year. I've facilitated indirect contact but he's not interested and sadly rarely kept to a call schedule. We're divorcing and have a court heart early next month. He's attending and did ask to see DD the weekend before which I've agreed to because she really misses her cousins and loves spending them with them.

Back to the question - why do we think he created said account under DD's name when he has his own that he's been using for years...🤔

I couldn't gather at why, but I actually think that's a bit creepy. I can't logically put my finger on why. Do adults, I mean real adults, not 22 year olds, actually use snapchat? Dh and I (40s) have never used snap chat. It seems like something that only 15 year olds use to me.

It's odd because, as you say, she's tiny, not even at the age where she could communicate (why snap chat anyway?) if say she had access to a device. A 5 year old obviously can't text.

Does he communicate with you via snap chat? The only obvious thing I can think about is he created an account because he wants to keep communications about her with you to one account, and not communicate on his normal account. But unless he's like 17, snap chat seems an odd choice for that.

@mindutopia Me too. I was very surprised when the notification popped up yesterday.
I'm with you with the use of Snapchat. It seems to be a popular tool of communication where he's originally from and currently living.
We communicate on WhatsApp and occasionally SMS. We've never had each other on SC even when we were together. I do have the app installed but it's pretty much inactive.

Is he trying to save the name for her, so it isn’t taken. Like with email. Nowadays you cannot get your own name as it was taken 20 years ago or you need to add extra numbers like Katiesmith474

@coldcallerbaiter I don't think so. I get the impression he only cares about her when he visits. The remainder of the time, he couldn't give a toss about her existence.

You got a notification? Meaning he used the child’s phone number to sign up, can you explain? Or did he Snapchat your snap from the Katie acc?

Is it about wanting messages to disappear?

I say he's planning on sharing photos of her. With whom or why, could be innocent or not.

I have his number saved. He created the account using his own mobile number, so he was a friend suggestion in a way.

He hasn't informed us he created the account or provide us with the login details either. I wouldn't have known if I hadn't seen the notification.

That’s a leap to conclusions if I ever saw one 🙄

Yes, messages disappear on SC but users have the option to save pictures/messages etc.

It’s possible, op should be vigilant. She is the child’s mother. It crossed my mind that he might want to pose as the child and it could be nefarious.

Without knowing the guy, hard to judge.

Posing as a 5 year old on Snapchat. Yes that will last long