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I'm having such a run of bad luck.

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ConstantRain · 26/04/2024 10:22

Anyone else been in this position where it just seems to be one thing after another?

In the last 2 months I have -
Lost my job
No callbacks from any applications
Had a very ill family member who was hospitalised and now needs support from dh and me.
Car broke down and is going to cost lots.
And to top it off I've been comfort eating, gained weight and clashing with dh.

And then I hear of family members and friends booking holidays and going off to exciting places and although I'm happy for them, I'm feeling very sorry for myself.

I'm just here to moan and feel sorry for myself as I can't do that in real life. I'm trying to stay upbeat for everyone else.

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the80sweregreat · 26/04/2024 12:59

I'm Sorry op! It does go like that sometimes, one thing after another. It feels relentless and anything health related is never easy.
Mine isn't as bad as yours, but I did have to buy a new tyre the other week ,the shower has packed up on us, problems with my job , car insurance and car tax all seem to be due at one, insurances have gone up a lot and just normal money pressures and strains ( also can't lose weight )
I hope you can sort out your problems soon.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 26/04/2024 16:48

Oh mate! I had a similar run of bad luck a few years ago: My Dad got cancer, Mum broke her leg, dh (at that point the bread winner) lost his job, DS got diagnosed with ASD all within a month or 2.

Have a good wallow on here with us. Then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep plodding on x

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ConstantRain · 26/04/2024 18:30

I'm sorry to hear that @StrictlyAFemaleFemale and @the80sweregreat

It would help if I had a supportive and calm dh but he's so bad in a crisis. Actually, he is supportive once he's calmed down from his initial dramatic response to a crisis Hmm
Trying to job hunt amongst all this is hard and then so disappointing when nothing comes through.
Just need to keep going. Thanks for your kind words.

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the80sweregreat · 26/04/2024 18:47

Hope things look up soon op
I know it's hard though

ItsAllMadness24 · 26/04/2024 18:54

It sometimes feels like its one thing after another and your just trying to keep your head above water. My bad luck started exactly a year ago, my kitten died, bus crashed into my car, I've had a cancer scare and two unplanned hospital stays and an op, my eldest dd has been hospitalised five times with sepsis to kidney infections, my youngest dd was hospitalised and had appendix removed, mum was diagnosed with cancer and died three months later, dh has had bad health, my mil is now in hospital and been told nothing more they can do. You've just got to keep on going one day at a time and try to see the good things in your life as hard as that may be.

Scousefab · 26/04/2024 18:56

Right first things first- yes runs of bad luck happen and you have to ride the waves. I struggled with job apps - go to a few job agencies sign up - I did some temporary agency work and found a full time job. Weight gain. - i can’t talk but maybe cut down a bit and go for more walks. You will smile again and be happy don’t worry for some strange reason everything happens for a reason.

radishpatch · 26/04/2024 18:59

Gosh this has been me the last 18 months - one thing after another! In fact when another thing happens now I barely flinch, whereas before I would have been floored. It helps that I've had a run like this before, and I know it'll pass.

In the meantime, I'm treating myself kindly and not expecting too much of myself. Hope you can do the same OP x

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ConstantRain · 26/04/2024 19:04

Oh goodness @ItsAllMadness24 you've had it bad! So sorry for your losses. I hope your Dd and dh are are doing well.

Hope it passes soon for you and for all of us going through the bad patch @radishpatch

Thank you for everyone's positivity especially @Scousefab Smile definitely the walking will help my mood if nothing else.

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itsallrosyteacher · 01/05/2024 06:43

ConstantRain · 26/04/2024 18:30

I'm sorry to hear that @StrictlyAFemaleFemale and @the80sweregreat

It would help if I had a supportive and calm dh but he's so bad in a crisis. Actually, he is supportive once he's calmed down from his initial dramatic response to a crisis Hmm
Trying to job hunt amongst all this is hard and then so disappointing when nothing comes through.
Just need to keep going. Thanks for your kind words.

OP, I totally feel you. I’ve had a really tough past year. Left a really toxic workplace where I was being bullied by my manager. Struggling financially as I’ve had to take temp work. Can’t find a job and getting knocked back from a load of applications. Struggling to lose weight and trying so hard not to comfort eat/ drink!

Putting it simply, it’s hugely stressful and it sucks. If you’re really struggling, remember you can get help ❤️ And if you just need a vent, go for it!

Mellyisatwat · 01/05/2024 06:53

Yes, my whole life.

If I listed it all here, you’d think I was a troll.

I always expect/prepare for the worst now.

For example, I’ve have stigmatism in one eye. never bothered me enough for glasses, but I was going to have to do a period of night driving And lights can flare with that condition so I thought glasses may help.

Went to the opticians, said to dh, “this will open another can of worms”. He told me not to be so fucking negative.

18 months on, I’m under the care of Moorfields, some genetic thing was found which will eventually make me blind (nothing to do with the stigmatism, not
Affecting my sight yet).

I just laughed to be honest. I was expecting something awful.

Damnloginpopup · 01/05/2024 07:19

That's normal. Keep plugging away with the applications.

Find a distraction to avoid the comfort eating. Something outside like Couch to 5k, general walking, some sort of physical outdoors activity - doesn't have to be strenuous.

Theunamedcat · 01/05/2024 07:26

Omg yes! And to top it all off this morning I've found ants in my house just fucking how are they getting into my toilet? Where are they coming from? And how are they getting through all the spraying I've carefully done around the cats in the last week because we have FUCKING MOTHS

it's the least of my troubles but if I put my main one out there its incredibly outing suffice to say its the first of May and I'm tipping over

LlynTegid · 01/05/2024 07:28

Early 90s was made redundant on four occasions.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 01/05/2024 07:31

I had a spell like that about five years ago - everything kept going wrong and I could not catch a break. Thank god it ended eventually, and yours will too - hopefully very soon Flowers

Mabelface · 01/05/2024 07:34

I've had a shitty year, losing my mum amongst other things. I focus on the mantra that everything is temporary and also small victories, stuff like a sunny day where I've got all the washing dried outside, completed a task that I'd been putting off. These keep me going.

motheronthedancefloor · 01/05/2024 08:11

Try to make a plan of action and/or deal with one thing at a time.

e.g the job situation - update your CV, join linkedin and set your status to 'looking', go on different job sites (indeed, charity jobs, jobs.ac.uk, civil service jobs, guardian jobs, work4mp....every one there is really)! even facebook will have local job groups.

Bonbon249 · 01/05/2024 09:15

I think it was Winston Churchill who said 'When you're going through hell, keep going'. My advice to anyone going through a tough time is be kind to yourself, you're doing the best you can.

Theunamedcat · 01/05/2024 22:39

Today got worse I would lower my expectations but they are currently on the other side of the planet

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