Bipolar cam it effect reactions to others

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I'm just wanting people's thoughts because I want to understand.

Adult dd. Has bipolar. Recently she's been having therapy. She tells me some of the things they talk about. She said that they spoke about what she wants to achieve and what stops her . One of the things was the gym . And she said child care stops her. I was having baby GS 5 days a week whilst she went to the gym. I cut this down to 3 days because I desperately needed time to do the things in life I needed to do. Now she's going to the therapy which is 10 sessions . I told dd I'm still only having GS 3 times a week so now gym is only twice a week should I be feeling guilty she I be offering 4 days a week till therapy has finished? I also have both gs if she gos out and I will have them when she gos on holiday

Also dd finds it hard to mange her older DS he cries and screams quite a bit and he makes threats. Such as i will smash my tablet. He shouts that he's angry . Sometimes he's just crying saying its not fair etc. Dd always ends up saying short sharp comments to him. This makes it much worse and sometimes she's actually horrible to him. I love them both dearly and I don't want to come across like slagging dd of but it's like watching 2 teenagers only one is 6. There has been a good few times strangers on the bus have pulled her up for how she speaks to her DS.

I have recently started taking GS to school ahd it's definitely helped . He's cried told me he hates me etc because he can't have his tablet on the bus when with me. He crys until we get off the first bus. Then he plays with my 2 children whilst we wait for the 2nd bus. Then he's ok . I do think the tablet is causes issues for them as well.

She also seems to dramatise things or lies about stuff.

I'm wondering can bipolar be a reason why dd is like this ? She's not on medication at the moment but will be soon. Will things change once she's on meds ?

It rather depends what medication DD is given as to whether it will help her bipolar symptoms. With DP it was a case of trial and error for a while.

From what you've written it sounds as there is no partner around to help DD with the children. But it shouldn't be up to you to care for them so much. Child care is DDs responsibility and while going to the gym may help her, the children have to come first. It may be that her older DS is acting up because he needs more of her attention. His tablet should be removed from him when he gets angry/makes threats.

You should not feel guilty at all for not being more available to DD. I hope her treatment goes well. Dealing with bipolar is extremely difficult both for those suffering from it and for those of us around it. Horrible illness.

Of course it can affect how people react to others, it is a mood disorder.

That doesn't mean that she should not try to modify her behaviour, certainly the way she behaves towards her child sounds awful. The child is probably acting up because of how he is treated, he'll have trauma.

Hopefully medication will help but she still needs to put the work in.

I think the tablet used to help them as it would distract gs. He gets quite upset and stressed with the buses . But as much as it used to work I don't think it does any more . A few times he's broken his tablet and he's had to go a week without it and he seems better . But then dd gave it to him as soon as the new one came. She said he associates that he gets the tablet when with mummy but not with nana.

I guess we just have to wait I really hope the meds work for her. I just want to see them happy

Thats what I'm hoping . I'm going to do the school runs for now. Its not worth the stress. And hopefully meds will help