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Can your face show your feelings?

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 12:45

Just that really. Do you think your face shows your feelings? When my dp speaks to a female friend his face looks so smiley and happy at her and I don't know if I'm reading too much into it. I walked into the room this morning when he was on a video call and she was still in bed and I didn't think that was appropriate either but I can't tell if it's just me

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thanKyouaIMee · 23/04/2024 12:47

I'm smiley and happy when talking to my friends, yes! I'm also grumpy looking when talking to an idiot 😂

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 12:49

he was on a video call and she was still in bed

You’re not serious, @Mattime? Shock

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 13:17

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 12:49

he was on a video call and she was still in bed

You’re not serious, @Mattime? Shock

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I am serious, yes..?

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 13:19

thanKyouaIMee · 23/04/2024 12:47

I'm smiley and happy when talking to my friends, yes! I'm also grumpy looking when talking to an idiot 😂

Sorry I probably didn't explain well, I mean a glow smiley happy, not just how you'd be with any person you like

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Poddingtonpeace · 23/04/2024 13:23

Yes, but also my face totally lies. I was happily doing filing once and I was asked if I was unhappy.

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 13:24

Why is this woman video calling a colleague from her bed? Unless her job involves Only Fans it is deeply inappropriate and unprofessional and one can only assume she either has designs on your partner or they’re already … involved.

It’s not on. At all.

StMarieforme · 23/04/2024 13:27

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 13:24

Why is this woman video calling a colleague from her bed? Unless her job involves Only Fans it is deeply inappropriate and unprofessional and one can only assume she either has designs on your partner or they’re already … involved.

It’s not on. At all.

OP never said colleague? It's a friend.

Still a bit dodgy tho!

Muddywalks34 · 23/04/2024 13:31

Genuine happy face isn’t something you can put on (or at least I can’t), my face never lies. There is a difference though between my happy face which many people see and my twinkly eye loved up face which only DH sees. Weird she was in bed though, unless she’s got a broken leg or something but still
working? (My DH has worked from his bed before following on from surgery as he never takes the recommended time off work)

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 13:31

Ah, yes - was confusing with a different conversation!

People shouldn’t be video calling other peoples partners from their beds. Even if they’re friends.

GalileoHumpkins · 23/04/2024 13:33

Of course your face shows your feelings, unless you're an expert poker player that's what people's faces do.

Thegoodbadandugly · 23/04/2024 13:34

Shouldn't be video calling anyone in bed unless it's family.

NewWater · 23/04/2024 13:35

GalileoHumpkins · 23/04/2024 13:33

Of course your face shows your feelings, unless you're an expert poker player that's what people's faces do.

Yes, that's the point of faces.

But the OP is clearly asking whether her boyfriend's animation is a Secret Sign that he loves his friend. Clearly he needs to work on his poker face.

Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 13:38

He'd be under no illusions about what my face was thinking about it all, put it that way.

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 13:56

Poddingtonpeace · 23/04/2024 13:23

Yes, but also my face totally lies. I was happily doing filing once and I was asked if I was unhappy.

😂 I think I have this face also

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 14:01

Weirdle · 23/04/2024 13:31

Ah, yes - was confusing with a different conversation!

People shouldn’t be video calling other peoples partners from their beds. Even if they’re friends.

Yes, it's a friend, not colleague.

So that bit isn't just me then? You couldn't see anything from what I saw but I can't ever imagine video chatting with someone from bed that I wouldn't be comfortable... Being in bed with?

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 14:02

NewWater · 23/04/2024 13:35

Yes, that's the point of faces.

But the OP is clearly asking whether her boyfriend's animation is a Secret Sign that he loves his friend. Clearly he needs to work on his poker face.

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Animated is a great word for it, thank you

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 14:13

Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 13:38

He'd be under no illusions about what my face was thinking about it all, put it that way.

You would have said something?

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Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 16:45

I wouldn't need to because I'd be like this 🤨

Say something, don't say something - it's up to you. I'm not convinced saying anything ever changes much in the long run.

You have a boyfriend who thinks it's totally cool to moon over a video call with a friend who is lounging around her bedroom and who doesn't say - "Oh sorry, I'll phone you back when you are ready". That's what you need to know.

Thevelvelletes · 23/04/2024 17:13

My face says it all ....if you've annoyed or over stepped the mark... people have commented in the past.

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 18:33

Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 16:45

I wouldn't need to because I'd be like this 🤨

Say something, don't say something - it's up to you. I'm not convinced saying anything ever changes much in the long run.

You have a boyfriend who thinks it's totally cool to moon over a video call with a friend who is lounging around her bedroom and who doesn't say - "Oh sorry, I'll phone you back when you are ready". That's what you need to know.

I'm usually of the same kind with your say something or don't, doesn't really change much

Do you see it as an intimate thing or just a friendship boundary cross?

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Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 20:11

Is there any reason why you don't trust your own judgement on this? You know their history and the style of their friendship and how it compares with his other friends, male and female. This all informs your conclusion about whether this is a close friendship or a flirtation.

Personally, I wouldn't like either. I wouldn't chat with my own mates on video call while they were in bed. Usually that would be an intrusion into a friend's privacy. I would happily just chat on the phone but that isn't mooching around the room with them while they are still not ready for the day.

I suppose I think that the act itself is quite intimate before you get to the content. I think it's important to have friends but I think relationships can get crowded if those friendships are so familiar that they take on the quality of an intimate relationship, like bodding around someone's room with no regard for their privacy.

lemontart13 · 23/04/2024 20:16

Mattime · 23/04/2024 12:45

Just that really. Do you think your face shows your feelings? When my dp speaks to a female friend his face looks so smiley and happy at her and I don't know if I'm reading too much into it. I walked into the room this morning when he was on a video call and she was still in bed and I didn't think that was appropriate either but I can't tell if it's just me

Yes, I do.
Personally I can't control my emotions, so that's when i'm exited or tired everything is on my face, everyone can read my emotions.

WhereIsMyLight · 23/04/2024 20:20

Faces of course show emotion. It’s how you know if someone is happy, sad, excited. Some people have more expressive faces than others, which isn’t always a good thing. I’ve had to work hard on not displaying all my emotions on my face, especially when I’m pissed off at work but trying to build relationships. I would say that people can dull their reaction but very few can enhance their reaction, so being genuinely animated would be hard to fake. I think there’s a difference between good friends getting along animated and they’re in love animated. Think back to when you’ve seen someone clearly infatuated with a crush or partner, did that mirror what you saw in your partner?

Your spidey sense is tingling and it’s heightened by her speaking to him whilst she’s in bed.

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 20:42

Desecratedcoconut · 23/04/2024 20:11

Is there any reason why you don't trust your own judgement on this? You know their history and the style of their friendship and how it compares with his other friends, male and female. This all informs your conclusion about whether this is a close friendship or a flirtation.

Personally, I wouldn't like either. I wouldn't chat with my own mates on video call while they were in bed. Usually that would be an intrusion into a friend's privacy. I would happily just chat on the phone but that isn't mooching around the room with them while they are still not ready for the day.

I suppose I think that the act itself is quite intimate before you get to the content. I think it's important to have friends but I think relationships can get crowded if those friendships are so familiar that they take on the quality of an intimate relationship, like bodding around someone's room with no regard for their privacy.

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I think because I just caught a glimpse and felt a bit daft as on the surface of it, he was smiling at his friend which isn't a weird thing to do. Just walking past the room at that time i didn't like how laughytwinklyeyes he was looking and then on top of that seeing her sitting up in bed chatting and laughing away brought up other questions.

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Mattime · 23/04/2024 20:44

WhereIsMyLight · 23/04/2024 20:20

Faces of course show emotion. It’s how you know if someone is happy, sad, excited. Some people have more expressive faces than others, which isn’t always a good thing. I’ve had to work hard on not displaying all my emotions on my face, especially when I’m pissed off at work but trying to build relationships. I would say that people can dull their reaction but very few can enhance their reaction, so being genuinely animated would be hard to fake. I think there’s a difference between good friends getting along animated and they’re in love animated. Think back to when you’ve seen someone clearly infatuated with a crush or partner, did that mirror what you saw in your partner?

Your spidey sense is tingling and it’s heightened by her speaking to him whilst she’s in bed.

I don't think I've seen him look like that before or at his male friends with a twinkle in his eye, no,

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