Is it appropriate to tell family you’re expecting via text/phone?

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Ideally, I would like to tell people in person but I understand that’s not possible for a lot of relatives.

We have a couple that live abroad - close relation, but not overly close to them. Maybe see them once a year.

My sister lives locally but hasn’t been the best to me in the past, so I’m fairly low contact. I have been making more of an effort recently and trying to find a time to meet her but she is making it difficult and saying they are unavailable at any time I suggest. If we popped round they’d hold us at the door. It is awkward. Despite all this, she gets extremely upset and hostile if she is not the first to find out big news and it is always my fault. She was angry when she wasn’t the first to know about our engagement years ago. It will be the same for this, and she will make it about her and the fact that I don’t ’value her enough’ to tell her. I don’t think I’ll win with whatever I do as she will be unhappy if I don’t tell her in person, but isn’t giving me an opportunity to (even though I’ve said I have something important to tell her).

I had a revelation and thought, why am I overthinking it ?! There’s two or three options

Send everyone a card in the post

Ring them, try a couple of times (and leave a text if they don’t answer)

Just don’t tell them until a time when we see them, if they’re not present in our lives why should they need to know ??

I didn't tell most of my family. Same when Dc were born.

I told my best friends in person, also parents grandparents and one aunt. Let them spread it. I have no idea when my sister found out, she was 6months pg when my DP told me about DN.

All my lot have rung parents and told the rest of the family via the family group chat. Brothers and sisters having babies like rabbits at the moment so plenty of recent evidence of this.

Just do what you want
you’ve said yourself you can’t win and either way she’s going to be annoyed. So exactly, why overthink it.
do whatever you’d like to do, tell who ever you’d like however you’d like
and then when she gets annoyed don’t engage with it. You know it’s coming, I know it’s stressful, but try to let it go.
i do think phone and txt are fine, though if you’re close to your parents txt maybe isn’t the best way. Otherwise I don’t think it matters at all.

Depends on your relationship and as well how you usually communicate.

If you were really close I'd probably expect at least a phone call or to be told in person.

If not, then more acceptable by text. So depends

I sent out a card to parents and told them I’d sent something in the post and to please call when it arrived so I could explain what it was. That way I could hear them open it and find out.

Absolutely fine

Good idea to ring a few times and then text.

Yes it’s fine