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Any DHSS or banking branch staff - please help - disability related

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Bankingnightmare · 19/04/2024 21:00

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My adult son (22) is severely autistic whilst being academically clever. (grammar school, A levels) He has very severe social anxiety. He lives at home with us.

He gets high rate pip and LCWRA which is about 1300 a month. He has a PA once a week, they go to the gym, it took 6 months to get him to actually go along with the PA beginning with tiny steps as he couldn't speak with the PA for the first month or two.

He never spends his money and now has too much to get his UC (20k in his account).

We have declared this and need to provide bank statements so they can see when he hit the threshold. This is all fine, but...

He has an absolute phobia about internet banking or using an app. He doesn't use a smartphone at all. Our local bank branch has closed down . We have no internet banking ID for him.

Our current plan is to go into the nearest branch tomorrow, to ask for print outs of his bank statements - but it's not a full service branch. Any bank staff - Will there be a human there to help? It's such a simple task but we need to ask an actual person.

Will UC do more than stop his payments and presumably ask for a refund? It's not fraud, he finds dealing with finances intolerably stressful. He has spent all evening sobbing at the thought of having to have internet banking whilst moaning "no, no no". Getting him to the bank tomorrow in a town 11 miles away will probably have him in bed for several days after.

I am realizing I probably need to get power of attorney to run his banking. Do I have to get a separate solicitor or will the bank sort this?

It's HSBC and I am cursing them for closing all the branches. It's absolutely crippling for people like my boy.

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Keepingongoing · 19/04/2024 21:32

That sounds incredibly challenging, and so sorry the internet banking issue causes such intense distress to your son.

Not a bank employee or DWP but I was going to say that I didn’t think that the bank would arrange a POA. However I did find this page on the HSBC website:

https://www.hsbc.co.uk/accessibility/mental-health-and-support/

Might be worth ringing the number on there to ask if there’s an easier way to get printouts of his bank statements?

Mental Health and Support | Accessibility - HSBC UK

Full information on how HSBC customers can get Mental health support

https://www.hsbc.co.uk/accessibility/mental-health-and-support/

Blahblahblabbaba · 19/04/2024 21:44

Do you have a third party arrangement or a court of protection type arrangement set up? Just thinking if you do, you can call and request the statements be posted or your own online access, to save a branch visit?

Blahblahblabbaba · 19/04/2024 21:46

Oh sorry I've just noticed you mentioned a POA. I think you'll struggle to get the bank to set something up if they have any concerns over his capacity to give you authority. I thought it would be a court of protection , but these can be expensive. Someone else might come along and give some better advice than me.

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Bankingnightmare · 19/04/2024 21:54

I have just seen that we could have had an appointee bank account opened for him, that I could have administered, but now he has more than the 5k you are allowed to have to open such an account. Why didn't anyone tell me? I could have enabled him to spend some of his money on clothes etc. He owes his dad 1k for a computer but has never been able to pay him back as he hasn't got a chequebook or internet banking.

Honestly it's so distressing.

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Bankingnightmare · 19/04/2024 21:56

I am his DWP appointee.

Why the heck didn't someone tell me about this when I was given appointee status.

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