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What would you do? House/moving related

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TheTempest · 16/04/2024 18:30

This might be long! So we have lived in our house for 12 years now and I honestly still love it. It needs about £40k spending on it though. I have a real emotional attachment to it, as I never had a home for more than a year growing up and this is where my DD grew up from age 2.

I’m disabled and have chronic health conditions which are only likely to get worse.

There is a bungalow up for sale around the corner (really important for us to stay in the area for DD’s school, family and social connections). 4 bed so same size but much bigger space and easier to maintain and nothing needs doing. It also future proofs us as it means even if I get worse then we can stay there as no stairs etc. it also has an annexe so useful for elderly parents, kids as they get older.

I know it’s a bit my diamond shoes are too tight, but everyone else wants to move and I can see the positives and I do like the new house. It’s just the emotional side of it for me, I’m worried that I won’t settle and I’ll be homesick but won’t be able to go home. And as this is mostly led by DH then I’m worried I’ll resent him if I really don’t like it.

We need to decide whether we put ours on the market and make an offer or to remortgage and do the work our house needs. Knowing that if my health does get worse then I’ll have no choice in moving as stair lift isn’t possible here.

so wise people, what would you do?

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marshmallowfinder · 16/04/2024 18:34

I'd definitely go for the bungalow, but I expect it'll go before you're ready to buy, if yours isn't even on the market yet. You need to take the sentimentality out of it, in my opinion. But then I'm very pragmatic about these things and firmly believe in looking at things practically.

ASeagulStoleMyIceCream · 16/04/2024 18:36

I think future-proofing yourself is the most important thing. You can make new memories in the bungalow. Your old memories will stay with you wherever you go, the building is just bricks and mortar. The bungalow sounds like it would make life easier for all of you and would be a more appropriate forever home if you feel your health will deteriorate.

theteddybear · 16/04/2024 18:43

You need to think practically. You know you will need to move eventually. You might not get the bungalow you need in the area you need or with no work needing done etc in the future. It sounds like a no brainer to me and I'm sure you will be happy in it. You make your own memories and will likely get an emotional attachment to your new house too.

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TheTempest · 16/04/2024 19:22

Thanks for your replies- we nearly bought the bungalow last year, we waited 6 months for them to find somewhere to go and then I freaked out and we pulled out. They haven’t sold since then as it’s quite a niche property and we sold ours on the first viewing so I’m hoping we should be ok.

They have now found somewhere apparently and got back in touch to see if we are still interested, which is why it’s come back up as an option. I think we’re going to tidy ours up, touch up paint work etc and see what the estate agent says. Then at least we have all the information to make a decision on.

Food for thought that you’re all saying the same thing though, my sister said it’s a no brainer as well. Well, everyone has it’s just be being reticent!

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MuggleMe · 16/04/2024 22:04

Don't be in a position where you resent the house because it no longer meets your needs and the bungalow isn't available so you make do. Move, enjoy the memories.

TheTempest · 08/09/2024 14:47

I just wanted to post to thank you all for your advice. We moved in a month ago and I’m genuinely so happy here. So thank you, you made this internet stranger take a leap of faith that really paid off ❤️

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Kpo58 · 08/09/2024 15:52

That's fab that it's gone so well for you. 🙂

shellyleppard · 08/09/2024 15:53

Op go for the bungalow. I'm struggling with my house but can't move (can't get a council bungalow big enough). You will find the bungalow easier if your health gets any worse x

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