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I wonder if anyone can help me sort this out in my head? Possible trigger

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0rangesandstrawberries · 16/04/2024 10:58

Name changed for this.

I'm just trying to work out whether this is something I should 'deal with' or whether it's nothing at all.

When I was about nine and for a couple of years a boy on my street who was 3/4 years older used to make me do stuff to him. He touched me and vice versa. We simulated sex. There was some sort of oral sex though I had no idea what I was doing. I didn't want to but he wouldn't give me the key to my house until I did, that sort of thing. Our families were close and spent weekends together etc.

I don't think it bothers me now but I do often wonder about it but imagine most kids have something like this anyway, even if it's just experimenting. Some of the things I don't remember thinking I didn't want to do for example. Though by the end I hated it.

So is this abuse? Typing it out now I really think it is and that I've perhaps minimised it.

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SleepingStandingUp · 16/04/2024 11:01

I'm sorry op but yes, this is abuse. Aside from the fact you were 9 so couldn't consent, he forced you to do stuff you didn't want to / were too young to understand/ too young to consent to. This isn't just a standard part of growing up

Do you have anyone you can talk to in real life?

0rangesandstrawberries · 16/04/2024 11:07

Sure, well I have my dh but he experienced actual sexual abuse from an uncle for years so it's not really in the same level.

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