Do I tell him or none of my business?

[Greyat]

I'm a long standing member of a club. I was a committee member for a long time, but stepped down a while ago for the sake of my sanity My current role at the club is active member, supporter of all club events and willing volunteer when needed, but try not to get involved with the inevitable politics.

We have a fairly new member. He's a bit odd, maybe on the spectrum, but I quite like him. He's very enthusiastic and wants to be liked and help people. He does rub people up the wrong way, but in my view is always well intentioned. He's become part of my social group at the club.

He also belongs to another club, which is fine, several people do, there's some overlap and the two clubs include the other's members in events. He's very keen and often suggests things that might be of interest to members.

However has advertised the "other" club's event, which clashes with our training session, on the club FB group. This is not the done thing, we share events, but don't do it for things that will take people away from our own sessions. He won't have realised this, he just thinks it might interest people. This is what gets him into trouble!

I don't want to be a busy body, it's not really my place, I'm not completely sure how he'd respond, but should I quietly suggest he takes it down? Or leave it to the chair, who will have taken offence?

Tell him gently.

Leave it.

I'd leave it. Surely the chair will realise he's not quite worked things out properly and not take offence?!

If the chair takes offence then they're an odd bod imo.

Surely anyone with an interest in your hobby already knows about the other club and has decided on yours anyway.

Yes, the chair has his own issues.

As for members, there's is quite a history of then other club "poaching", it is a sensitive subject. Most people try to do the right thing between the clubs, but there is an edge there.

I would just explain the situation, Hi x, Just to let you know how the group works; other clubs events are often advertised on here apart from when they clash with our own dates. We have training on x date which clashes with x event. Thanks x.

Don't be subtle or vague, just explain the situation factually. It's no big deal.

Who's the fb administrator? Don't posts have to be approved?

You're all adults, I'm sure grown ups can decide for themselves if training is more important than attending the advertised event. I'd not mention it personally.

Ive had the deep misfortune to be on similar committee. In this situation, I'd try to speak to (or message) the person directly.

If you think he’s not socially aware enough to have picked up on this, just explain it factually to him and say there’s a history of the other club poaching members.