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How is this person finding me online?

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LostInAFrost · 15/04/2024 21:10

I do creative work online and have a couple of social media accounts and a website. This isn't an issue as such, since the guy has always followed my work, but I have noticed that if I ever open a brand new account with an entirely new username (with no links to my email or anything like that), how does he generally find me within hours?

Over the years I have worked on tons of projects, alone and with others. Due to this I have quite a few varied instagram accounts - some which later closed, some remain open. He was a fan in my first one many years ago and seems like a nice person, but I always noticed he found me when I opened a new, completely different account. This has happened over 6 times in the past few years so I am puzzled!

Is Insta suggesting me to him even though my account is completely new? He never says a peep and just 'likes' my stuff, so I can't see anything untoward. It's just odd in terms of privacy, in general, I suppose.

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RoadToPlants · 15/04/2024 21:12

Grim. Are you using the same email account or phone number to set up the new account? Weird that he gets to you so quickly.

I’d be inclined to close all the accounts and start a new one from a burner email that doesn’t link to any of the other ones at all.

LostInAFrost · 15/04/2024 21:15

Ah, some are 'added' accounts, so maybe insta are recommending me to him as they know he followed the others. However, some are with new emails so I am stumped.
I don't feel that anything creepy is afoot, but there's this sense that I don't have the privacy I'd like. Such is the internet!

EDITED to add : I actually do think at least 2 of my accounts were with a throwaway email and he still found me within hours. I remember thinking 'how does he do that!!?' Maybe it's my.....style or something Confused

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Runningbird43 · 15/04/2024 21:19

you’d be suprised how easy it is.

i have completely separate “work” social media. Work computers, work email, use a name that isn’t mine, no links at all.

dh still gets them in his suggested friends list.

if the content is similar and he follows a lot of that type then it’s likely that an algorithm somewhere thinks he may like the content and suggests it.

not wierd or creepy. Just how social media works.

LostInAFrost · 15/04/2024 21:20

I had thought it must be something like that, thanks for clarifying it. No matter how obvious it may seem, it still kind of bugs me for some reason.

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