No thank you for booking the holiday - am I being over sensitive?

[CordeliaC]

Partner of less than a year going through a very hard time at work and with a personal matter. Lots piling on top of him.

At the moment I have a lighter load so when he brought up going on holiday in June I got fairly excited as this is our first holiday together. We've talked about what we're looking for and I spent time finding the perfect place and making enquiries.

Having chosen a place I booked it last night and sent him the confirmation on Whatsapp. He 'liked' the post but that was it - no verbal acknowledgement.

This morning he's talking about being stressed again. Am I being over sensitive? Is it too much to ask for a thank you for sorting it all out? It was just such a bla reaction and I'm looking forward to it

Did he agree to the booking being made? As in was there any communication between discussing holidays and you booking somewhere?

Did you ask him if he liked it before booking?
has he got the time off work?

@BodyKeepingScore yes. The first place I found he disliked because it was in the town and he wanted somewhere secluded.

So I found another more secluded one and sent to him and he agreed. He said 'I trust you to book a good place'.

First holiday together is exciting so suppose I just hoped for more of an acknowledgement.

Yes @Popchippps he was the one that proposed those dates

I think you may be being a bit sensitive. Give him a minute and maybe when you start chatting more about etc you will get the same excitement from him

I don't think it's a big deal. I can't remember anyone ever thanking me for booking a holiday.

You've said he's having a really hard at work and he is stressed because of a personal matter.

You're not just being insensitive to this, but extremely self centred. Do you think thanking you for booking the holiday is that important?

Try and stop thinking about yourself and think how you can support him better.

Yes. You said you'd do it, he acknowledged it - the thumbs up was a thanks.

He could have at least said 'Thanks for booking' but if he is as stressed as you say, maybe he's just really overwhelmed and hasn't really got the brain capacity to get excited etc yet?

What sort of thank you would you like have liked? It seems odd that you need to be thanked for booking a holiday that you are presumably also going on. It's not like you did something exclusively for him.

Jeez. Do you think him every time he does an online order which benefits you in some way? Same level of effort. You are being a princess.

oh? I get thanked by my husband and children for making the arrangements to do things. And I thank people when they do things for me.

Perhaps if he's worried about work, he's worried about how he's going to pay for his share of the holiday but too stressed/embarrassed to say so?

That's it @pikkumyy77 and yes @Sillysausagedog that's all I wanted - a thank you for booking and sorting it out. It did actually take a while to find something we'd both like.

Well I hope not @Elektra1 but maybe. I did find a cheaper place with that in mind. It's self catering once we're there and I don't need to go out for expensive meals every day.

Maybe I am being precious

Its not necessarily a make or break issue but pay attention because it may signal incompatible love languages or emotional cultures. You like to be seen and acknowledged—does he? Or does he like to be seen and acknowledged for what he dies but likes to ignore your contributions?