How do you cope with husbands erectile dysfunction

[IHaveChangedMyNameForToday]

I have changed my name for this but have been on MN for years.

My husband has recently started some medication for high blood pressure and it's become evident that this is causing erectile dysfunction.

We had an active sex life, and love/fancy each other very much.

He has gone to the GP and got viagra, this does work but they will only prescribe 4 tablets a month.

The main issue, apart from only having 4 prescribed shags a month (!) is that it takes the spontaneous element of sex off the agenda. It all seems so formal asking him to take a tablet if I fancy a roll in the hay.

Has anyone else experienced this, and how did you get over this? We are affectionate and loving but there's something odd about going from a kiss, to taking a tablet and then waiting an hour or so for the magic to happen!

I may be a shallow witch, but I feel for you @IHaveChangedMyNameForToday

Could you afford to buy some more Viagra privately such as from Superdrug online? Obviously check if it’s safe for home to take more than four per month.

Has he tried taking just half a tablet?

@TunaCrunchy he's on the lowest strength so I suspect half a tablet would be at best half-mast.

I'll look at boots/superdrug and see what the cost is. The loss of income has had an impact so it feels wasteful to spend it on viagra but also I would like to have a little stash!

Just buy more tablets via Boots or Superdrug online . Not too expensive if you opt for the non branded alternatives

I think it’s around £50 for four from Superdrug online.

Half may work with a little help.

Boots own brand generic (sildenafil) is £14.99 for 4 x 50g tablets.

That's fairly insensitive when it's clear that OP is struggling and has come here for help and support. Not every opinion is appropriate to share in every conversation.

Besides, the NHS does - and absolutely should - offer many treatments that are aimed at improving quality of life. We don't limit our public healthcare to life-saving treatments alone in the UK.

Asda on line pharmacy is easy.
We use sildenafil. It only really takes 20-30 mins to start working for us.

@Fargo79 thank you.

I do believe that it's part of a healthy relationship to have a sexual component if both parties are willing, and if medication exists which can be helpful then it should be made available. Now viagra is available as a generic medication the cost has been greatly reduced.

I’d be asking the gp about this next time you go in. It may be that he’s only allowed four pills for health reasons or bc of the side effects of the drug and increasing the frequency of use could be damaging.

Op if it’s not a health and exercise or weight loss issue, and your dh is on board, then I would be switching your focus during sex with your dh to exploring your pleasure with toys etc and not focusing on piv so much.

Some men would not be interested in doing this if they did not find it physically pleasurable themselves but if you make it clear to your dh that this is very important to you, and if he’s a decent man, then this could be a good compromise for the future. You might have to be quite outspoken about your needs though which is never easy.

Get him to cut the tablets in half, it will still work & you get 8 intimate sessions per month.