Why does everything have to have a label

[Jennyfromthedock]

Now I’m probably putting myself in the firing line here and I’m going to start by saying this post obviously doesn’t apply to the ones it does affect

but why does every little nuance, or routine have to be labeled as ocd, adhd, autism etc

for example I’m on a couple of groups where people share various things and one post was a person that liked a particular breakfast and has it most days, and do you know what before I clicked on it I just new there were gunna be people “oh you need to be checked that’s a trait of so and so” oh yes you definitely have so and so disorder - can someone not just enjoy a breakfast with out needing a label?

I feel like every post I see AT LEAST one person is saying they have some sort of disorder or diagnosis

but come on every single one lol we can all have silly little traits, or nuances we do with out falling in one of these category’s

another one was a child not wanting to leave somewhere and again the diagnosis started from commenters lol like do not all kids do this?

i guess when people do have diagnosis they are more aware and can easily pick out traits and can recognises things but every bloody post trying to play doctor to everyone just sharing normal bloody things 😂

now again don’t come for me this does not apply to the posts where their solely looking for advice on these subjects I’m on about just general stuff that people are jumping on

does anyone agree or am I just very naive and turns out we all have traits of these conditions I dunno 🤷🏼‍♀️

interested to know others opinions

It can get a bit OTT but if you're autistic then you tend to share information, particularly information you wish had been shared with you a lot sooner.

There is a difference between oh I love museli I have it everyday and I love the Sainsbury's own museli because of the texture and the size of the grains and if I don't have it everyday it starts the day wrong and I cry and then I'm running to catch up for the rest of the day.

No I agree with you, and I think it’s belittling people who really do have these conditions, for others to throw the ‘names’ around willy nilly.

I hear so many people say they have OCD because they like their cushions just so, or whatever, when maybe they just like things tidy

My daughter says I ‘have anxiety’. I don’t, however I do worry a lot, that’s just my way

Same daughter asks why I didn’t pick up on her ADHD when she was a little girl (she has NOT been diagnosed with ADHD), because she was really obsessed with different things - for example Scooby Doo and at another time guinea pigs (we have pet ones). Don’t most kids go through fads? I know I did, and still do

Couldn't agree with you more

Totally agree. Was talking to a couple of Mums at school about peri menopause and I said I'm finding it really hard to concentrate on stuff lately and flit from one thing to another, one of the Mums turned around and said "oh it's probably adhd you have" 🤔 Nope it's definitely peri menopause!

If there are really groups that think having the same breakfast everyday means you have OCD then that is frankly ridiculous and I'd wonder why you are on such silly groups. Beyond that I'm not sure what point you're trying to make.

One of my sons traits was that he hated leaving places because he struggles with transitions - but was much more able to cope if I gave him a 5 minute warning. That alone doesn't make him autistic but it was still a trait.

It was one of those types of posts many years ago that made me realise my child’s issues might be because of asd, and made us seek help and a diagnosis. I would say it had been life changing, for the better, and my now late teen would absolutely agree. So I will be forever grateful to the mumsnetter who suggested it to me.

I've been on MN about a year. What I've noticed the most in that time is that the average household income is five hundred and eleventy thousand pounds a year. What I've noticed the second most is that 90% of the posters (or their kids/partner) have autism, ADHD, neuro-diversity, or failing that, some kind of "anxiety".

Once you read into the people's posts you realise that half the time it's just self diagnosis. And because they've given themselves this label it gives them them carte blanche to either act like an arsehole, be lazy, or be useless. Sometimes all three.

As a parent to a son who is genuinely autistic, I find this infuriating tbh. Some of the self-pitying threads on here make me want to scream, punch a wall, and shout "YOU HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA!"

Nothing more to add.

Yeah, I find labels really itchy, so I cut them out of all my clothes. If only they made clothes without them

However, as you are talking about neurodivergence, I would say it is useful to be able to understand how your brain works and express what adaptations you may need. Being able to wear earplugs and headphones to school has been a real game changer for my child. I don't call it diagnosis, as that implies there is something wrong, when there are so many neurodivergent people, that we should all just be included in a society acceptingof differences.

But on Mumsnet everything is 'peri' so that's become its own label.

I work with 2 who love labels.

one is a 22 yr old who loves to tell everyone he is autistic and loves trump whatever you say. If i had a burger he’s had 5, if i won a tenner he win £109. Its tiring. Seriously.

another has body dysmorphia. HR have told her not to fret about what she wears in the morning, to take her time in coming into work. Yeah, right. Another 20 something who loves a label.

both are serious piss takers and making the rest of us hard working souls reeling

You're exaggerating though, everything doesn't have to have a label.

Why don't you ground your argument in reality? Eg I've noticed that sometimes?

Hate these stupid hyperbolic threads.