Best friend

[Nicetobenice7]

I’ve noticed my best friend and I are not in as much contact as we used to be..I’ve talked to her about it and she said it’s the menopause …she keeps cancelling on me and tbh it’s starting to hurt she said she knows she is being a shitty friend right now …she isn’t only doing it to me it’s other friends too …but I’m her best friend I just don’t get it

She's told you how it is. Stop hoping and expecting and you'll stop feeling disappointed. She might get back in touch when she's feeling better. Lots of people shit down when they're struggling - don't take it personally.

I know I get that but I’m also worried about her if I give her space am I being a shitty friend …do I have a heart to heart with her and say I here if you need me or do I keep trying to pull her out of this it’s just not like her at all

There's nothing not to get.

She's told you she knows she's being shitty, she's told you why.

You can't really pull her out of it, it's a massive change and it really hits some people hard.

Just keep in weekly or fortnightly contact, concentrate on other friendships, and hopefully things will get back to normal when the menopause symptoms have settled a bit.