Shaved head ick

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DP shaved his head a few weeks ago and I found it so unattractive as soon as he got it done. His hair is not going to come back. I'm finding the little things that irritated me about him before which I overlooked before are now massive icks. Is it something I will eventually get used to or does this sound start of the end type stuff? I do have some mental health issues meaning that change is very challenging to me so maybe it's just that?

I used to be like this. I never understood if it was my issues or not. I've been single by choice for 10 years . Not much help OP but I empathise 💐

Why isn’t his hair going to grow back?

It's a little patchy so he'll have to keep shaving it.

Unless he has male pattern baldness, it will grow back OP!

I understand the ick, but if you’re considering whether this is the end of your relationship, there are other issues going on that you should probably deal with.

When I met DH, he had lovely and used gel. 13 years on, he regularly shaves it due to random bald patches. I dont like it as much when he was younger but I've got used to it. We all change as we age.

Time is needed

It depends whether he looks like Buster Bloodvessel or Yul Brynner.

If it was just a fashion statement, I wouldn’t be very happy. A shaved shiny pate is not, to me, an attractive look.

If however the poor chap has a medical condition like alopaecia (not sure of spelling) I’d probably be more understanding and overlook it as best I could. I’d try to come to terms with it. If his hair coverage is patchy then maybe he needs a medical appointment to sort out why it’s patchy? Stress, shock?

Fuck sake. The poor man has shaved because of hair loss, like pretty much every other man either has done, or will do - and you are thinking it's the end of your relationship. Well maybe it is, but it is entirely your problem. You are either a selfish inconsiderate person or yes, its your mental health. His personality is the same as the day he shaved it off.

What if the man just wants it because he likes it? Feel sorry for your husband if you dictate even what his hair style is

It must have been a big deal for your partner to shave his head and embrace his condition. I think you need to be a LOT more supportive, personally.

Imagine the outage if a man came here and said he had the ick from his female partner aging!

How can people be so superficial? You either love someone or you don't. My late husband's hair fell out because of chemo. It never changed how I felt about him. If your relationship depends upon your dh having hair or not, then you really have something to worry about I think. I hope this is a joke.

I’d be heartbroken if my DP got the ‘idk’ because I changed my hair. FWIW he’s bald and gorgeous.

I know it's not very nice. I've been supportive and told him it suits him but if I'm honest I think he's done this very prematurely. Sometimes I wake up in the night feeling really freaked out like it's a different person.