Kids Friendships Advice

[confusedallday]

Hi,

My DS aged 8, had three of his friends over today.

All seemed to go well, they all played video games together but my DS wasn’t as good at the game as the other three. They kept blaming him for losing, even when he put the controller down.

there was a couple of times where the three would whisper to each other and not my DS.

seems like these three get on a little better with each other than they do with my DS. That said, they don’t leave him out at school and he is adamant they are nice to him and don’t make fun of him. His friends have similar interests that they are really into whereas my DS isn’t as interested.

I don’t want him to be the weak link. Would I be wrong to try and push some of this other friendships or should I keep out?

I was bullied in High School, it was torture and I’m trying to hard to make sure my DS has decent friends.

any advice would be great, thank you.

Just advise him to keep his options open

You can't protect him against everything and you might be projecting, boy friendships are different my 13 yr old currently has his bestie from little school here, they go to different secondaries, and they had other friendship groups when at school together but they didn't care too much.

Our eldest struggled more but has settled in secondary. He just took longer to get established.

Relax OP and perhaps have a couple of just one friend over see how they are one-to-one.

Keeping his options open is good advice.

Btw, video games tend to bring the worst out in everyone so maybe discourage them?

Incredible, sweeping statement, No it does NOT "bring the worse out of everyone" and that is a fact.

Video games can make people laugh, be better friends learn new skills.

Yeah I think i might be projecting to an extent.

That said, I do feel like he doesn’t fit in as well as the others given their interests so I’ll encourage some of his other friendships.

I just really hope he makes friendships that are as equal as they can be.