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I feel aimless in life- what should I do?

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aimlesswanderingg · 13/04/2024 14:50

I left school scraping 3 C's in A Levels, got into a uni because my personal statement was amazing and I had an unconditional offer but didn't go as I was pregnant. Had 2 wonderful DC but was stuck in an awful, abusive marriage in which I was isolated from everyone. Also had to work full-time in retail/waitressing/admin jobs (EXH wouldn't work, whole other story). I eventually managed to leave and move and have a wonderful fiancé and my DC are thriving. However, I can't seem to get any job that gives me satisfaction. Since moving, I got a supervisor role and lasted six weeks. Then I got a job in a bank (just customer service) and lasted five months. DF earns enough so that I don't have to work and if I'm not enjoying a job, always says just to leave as we can afford it and it's not worth it. I know I'm very lucky to be in this position (I have been in poverty before for years so not boasting at all) but I just feel aimless. I don't want to do the jobs I've done in the past again, however the only thing I would genuinely want to do is midwifery. However, I'd have to do a higher level health and social qualification and I also don't have the support network for the DC to do such a demanding degree. So I just feel like I'm drifting. I do housework when the DC are at school and read a bit or watch something but I don't know what to do with my life. Realistically, I can only work part time due to no physical support network for DC. I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel like I'm just drifting through life.

OP posts:
Ratfan24 · 13/04/2024 14:59

In your situation I would do a part-time course on something i was really interested in which could lead to a career, and maybe a bit of voluntary work around the subject.

Nanny31 · 13/04/2024 15:00

You know sometimes I feel the same. Go with your heart on what you WANT in life. Focus on what you WANT not what you don't want
Best wishes

FleetingPurple · 13/04/2024 15:04

I suggest journalling for a while. Helps to clarify your thoughts.

Geebray · 13/04/2024 15:05

Wow OP, you've done amazingly in life!

Aside from midwifery, what give you PASSION? How about being a doula?

Shinyandnew1 · 13/04/2024 15:13

What’s a physical support network? Can you use paid childcare?

ArchaeoSpy · 13/04/2024 15:18

Join the security services ?

EcoCustard · 13/04/2024 16:42

I found volunteering has helped me pick a pathway and move forward along with studying. I’m 43 and just starting again after being a sahm for 7 years back to work Tuesday.

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