Would you report this to school?

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Discovered that DS (Y6) has been sent extremely inappropriate videos/songs that are sexually graphic/explicit lyrics by another child in his class via WhatsApp. Is this something I should be highlighting to the school? Or not schools concern as it happened outside school? Would you contact the other child’s mother to make them aware?

Don’t want to cause issues but obviously concerning the content the other child has access to at such a young age.

Yes, report it to the school, they can take it up with the parent and child.

Yes.

If school know it is happening they can do some work on it in school - class teaching around social media use etc etc etc.

You could also remove Whatsapp until he's old enough to meet the age limit in the conditions.

I would be ringing social services as well, and possibly the police. The sender could be being groomed

I would tell school, tell the other child's parents, and remove WhatsApp from his phone.

Yes. Screenshot them first so they don’t “disappear”. If you are not happy with school response take immediately to police. Make sure your DS has not shared at all.

Definitely tell the school.

Really? For sending pop songs?

I’d tell the school, but I would also stop a 10yo from using WhatsApp. There’s a reason the minimum age for it as outlined on the terms of use is 13. I would imagine this would be the school’s response too.

Of course this is a safe guarding issues around who is in the video

Sorry it's just a song, maybe not safeguarding but I think you should still report to school

It’s not a ‘pop song’. I don’t know what you’d call it but is extremely sexually graphic with obscene lyrics

I would 100% message the mum before any school contact. Why can't you just let her know. She might not have seen it. She will probably feel mortified and address it. If not then of course go to the school

Yes, I have now removed WhatsApp. I had previously not allowed it due to the lack of parental controls but he was feeling left out of his friendship group so I relented and agreed he could use it on the proviso I could check his messages. Which is obviously how it’s come to light that he was sent the video.

Why does your Y6 boy has WhatsApp ?
Even from your phone it is unsafe.
Damaging images that can't be unseen are now in your child's brain & imagination forever. Well done OP.

You should have resisted from the peer pressure. He shouldn't have a smartphone.

What is the song?

If it is a popular trendy song, while still inappropriate it’s less concerning than some super niche hardly heard song they wouldn’t have had to search to have found, or been shown by someone else.

You don't need to do this, as school will if they think it's appropriate.

I find it difficult to believe that a song & accompanying video is that problematic. Of course, very possibly it's content you don't want your DS to see.

I'd let the teacher know, not in any dramatic way, but for info.

And I wouldn't have a child of 10 (am I correct with age?) having a mobile phone at all, much less a smartphone.

Although you can report Internet abuse to the police, but no need to contact social services.

Absolutely if they are as extreme as you are making out.

Other child's parents need to be supervising internet use better and he should also know not to circulate such content.

Schools are externally hot on sensible internet use and whilst this may not be a safeguarding issue (school can judge this) they want to spend time in a class level talking about safer internet use.

Also agree screen shots a good idea

Screenshot it
Yes definitely tell the school as it might be a wider issue with more than one child sending those videos on

I’ve heard school say both things. I would definitely tell them, but they might tell you they can’t do anything as it’s happening outside of school.

This

And the smartphone!