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CF allotment thief part 2: the Battle of Barbara and the Beansprouts

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YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 10:24

Hi all, sorry I didn’t get a chance to post the link to this in the last thread, but it filled up too quickly.

So, another update

DH and I sat and had a looooong talk last night. We poured over every option, the pro’s and cons and the best and worst case scenarios. We thought of every possible situation that could arise from each option and we made a decision this morning.

it was actually the best/worst case scenario talk that clinched it.
Best case scenario for selling it to her was we get a little bit of money. Worst case is we have no allotment and the house possibly devalues.

Best case scenario for if we shared the land is that she is a pleasant plot neighbour and isn’t bitter that we are on the land that used to be ‘hers’ and doesn’t try to boss us about. But worst case scenario is that she remains bitter and makes our lives hell, interferes and our allotment space becomes an unbearable place to be.

Best case scenario for if we keep it to ourselves is we have the enjoyment of a long awaited allotment, one that makes a massive difference to DH’s MH and our general life enjoyment. Worst case scenario is that we make a neighbour - who is smart enough to find another plot or use her own generous garden - cross.

We figured that the worst case scenarios for all 3 weren’t worth risking the absolute best case scenario could bring.

So we are kicking her off.

We discussed letting her wait some months before making her leave or until the end of the growing season around about the end of September. But that when you consider the weather, that would mean we wouldn’t truly be able to enjoy the allotment in good weather for a whole year. I know it can still be enjoyed in horrible weather but the thought of missing out on a whole entire summer of gardening, relaxing and recuperating just feels too long. She has also indicated she will fight us - well she can try and she won’t win so I’d rather the ‘fight’ was a short one not a long one

We went to the plot this morning (no Babs in sight!) and took a soil test, took pictures, used that app to mark the plots (thanks to PP for the tips), and measured it and took pictures of the measurements/readings. From what we can tell she has root veg, fruit and a little herb garden patch, all growing fairly well considering the time of year. We didn’t disturb anything

Going to call the home insurers today to see if we can get legal cover and reclaim costs from the previous owner so solicitors can write her a letter - if not we will just instruct our current solicitors and make the reclaim too. I know we could do a letter ourselves but I really think a legal middle man would be worth the money. We will take solicitors advice on how much notice to give her - but it won’t be long notice. No point, may as well rip the plaster off now. We won’t be offering to buy the shed as I don’t want to be beholden to Barbara or have her make out to others that we stole the shed. We want a clean slate, to pick our own items.

I do feel bad that Barbara will be losing something that is so dear to her and that her ‘sanctuary’ will be taken away but the bottom line is it does not belong to her and she has known this for 10 years. She could have spent that 10 years, or even just the nine months since the house went on the market, to find another sanctuary. We are being selfish, we have been through unimaginable struggles and it’s time to just live for ourselves not a random neighbour. If that makes us a pariah in the community I can take it.

DH also messaged our police officer friend of ours this morning who said if the time comes to bin her stuff and dismantle the shed to call 101 and tell them “We are doing this, it’s our property and we will handle everything with care and bring it to her home” and then if she calls them saying we are stealing or damaging our property then we are one step ahead at least.

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YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 17:05

carerlookingtochangejob · 12/04/2024 16:04

Wow I've just read all your posts on both threads!

Personally I think it would be a bit cruel of you to kick this woman off the plot with no notice and halfway through the growing season! She will have a lot invested in it.
Why don't you give her notice now that you will be reclaiming the allotment from the end of the season and give her time and space to clear the site by the end of the year. That's what allotments societies do.

Sounds like you and your DH have enough on your plates right now. Leave it a season. Be reasonable and kind and it will probably win you more good will points in the long run. A bit of generosity and kindness goes a hell of a long way in small communities.

As I said in my OP, it means that we wouldn’t be able to have a sunny day in our allotment for a whole year. We aren’t exactly spring chickens ourselves, we want to enjoy our lives.

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jackstini · 12/04/2024 17:06

Hoping you're over at Barbara's and she's a bit calmer after sleeping on it

Loving the idea of a MN Allotment party...! 🥂🥦🍹🥔🍻🌽🍷

YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 17:08

CinnamonJellyBeans · 12/04/2024 16:08

I would not assist Barbara in uprooting the plants, dismantling the shed or moving anything. Nor would I speak to her about it. leave it to your solicitor.

Any physical or verbal interactions that you have with Barbara are likely to be wilfully miscontrued, by her or your fellow allotment users and neighbours.

I would not give her a long period of grace either, as this could also be misconstrued as you trying to make amends.

Enjoy your allotment!

When we spoke last night about worst case scenarios we considered helping Barbara move her stuff out but if she’s a troublemaker (she’s already shown signs of being a trouble maker so it’s not a total reach) she may tell people we stormed in and pulled her plants out in front of her very eyes (as we cackled and threw them at her - I’m maybe getting carried away 🤣). It does seem like this street in particular is one of those streets that is so neighbourly it’s creepy and whilst I really don’t give a shit about being popular I’d rather not be known as the village middle aged woman assualter (weapon of choice: parsnips)

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CormorantStrikesBack · 12/04/2024 17:09

WappityWabbit · 12/04/2024 16:48

Oo was that the “fuck you Chris and that horse” poster? I vaguely remember that one… 🤔

That’s the one. Some random woman and her horses were in her field and took some convincing to leave. There was going to be a MN festival on the site when she did go!

Brahumbug · 12/04/2024 17:11

Hi OP
Barbara can not claim adverse possession as she is there by permission of the land owner. You are now withdrawing the permission and should give her reasonable notice so she can remove her items from your land. Once permission has been removed she becomes a trespasser and you are entitled to mitigate that trespass by removing her items as long as you avoid unnecessary damage. Legally as speaking the land will be a detached part of your domestic hereditament, not within your main curtilage, effectively a detached garden. Stuck to your guns and claim it back.

BlancheSaysYes · 12/04/2024 17:11

It's a shame you're in Yorkshire and not Wales, because I'd willingly offer Barbara the use of my veggie patch as long as she gave me the odd lettuce.

YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 17:12

carerlookingtochangejob · 12/04/2024 16:13

@HappiestSleeping I would have bloody well done my due diligence first which the OP clearly hasn't done!
There is zero chance I would have bought a house with land without checking out the land and the garage first! I would (and did) go back for second viewings. I spoke to numerous neighbours, checked out the pub, etc. it's all part of the process of buying a house and so it simply wouldn't have happened!

And if I had found somewhere with a being used allotment then a) I would have damned well known about it long before the sale completed and b) I would have either agreed vacant possession or I would have agreed a date upon which it would have been completed. It's not rocket science!

Well done you. Where should I send your medal?

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godmum56 · 12/04/2024 17:13

akkakk · 12/04/2024 16:29

I understand a desire to smooth ruffled feathers - but equally I am very familiar with small village communities and the simple realities are:

  • 'Barbara' knew what was going on (c.f. 1st post by OP)
  • 'Barbara' has bizarrely decided a strategy of aggression when she was perhaps the one who needed to be gentler - after all she is the transgressor
  • Whatever happens is irrelevant - 'Barbara' will feel hard done and all her cronies will think the same - rational thought doesn't come into it!
  • Anyone else will totally understand the OP reclaiming the land she bought
  • No-one is suggesting saucepans at night or flaming torches, but a basic formal communication with no emotion - my land - hop it by this date - thank you - will do!

If 'Barbara' had tried a different strategy it would be a different story - but admitting that you know the land is sold / not yours and then stating aggressively that you will fight is hardly a good starting point - I would be with the OP - no benefit in playing her game - simple, formal, to the point - hop it and any damage will see you in court. There are times for being nice, times for being aggressive and times for a boring official legal line - and that is now.

This

dapsnotplimsolls · 12/04/2024 17:15

Does Babs have a local power base - town council, Neighbourhood Watch, bin monitor?

FKAT · 12/04/2024 17:15

If any of the pro-Barbara posters aren't driving their car right now, may I borrow it for 10 years?

Iamtheoneinten · 12/04/2024 17:16

YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 14:52

It was the solicitor who advised that it wouldn’t apply

Indeed. Also has to be fully enclosed (haven't RTFT so someone else might have said that). I know because I had to use Adverse Possession for my own land after finding out somehow a new owner of adjoining land had managed to register some of my land as theirs. It was their error and there was no challenge, just so happened AP was the easiest route to resolve it because of all of the evidence I had it was indeed mine.

onawave · 12/04/2024 17:17

In a couple of years this is going to used as proof you've been around a while.

Name changed for this but been around ages penis beaker, Sistine chapel, Babs the mad allotment squatter.

RazzlePuff · 12/04/2024 17:21

And this woman has KNOWN the previous owner was selling and the plot was part of the sale. She has been plotting all along with her own “scenarios”
Good for you taking charge, plan looks like a good one.

As to “Sanctuary” - raspberry to that, her sentiments are irrelevant & she can find a new hobby.

godmum56 · 12/04/2024 17:21

onawave · 12/04/2024 17:17

In a couple of years this is going to used as proof you've been around a while.

Name changed for this but been around ages penis beaker, Sistine chapel, Babs the mad allotment squatter.

you forgot the stables gate blocker who got blocked in with a teddy bear camping party

dapsnotplimsolls · 12/04/2024 17:23

godmum56 · 12/04/2024 17:21

you forgot the stables gate blocker who got blocked in with a teddy bear camping party

Bloody loved that one.

FKAT · 12/04/2024 17:24

onawave · 12/04/2024 17:17

In a couple of years this is going to used as proof you've been around a while.

Name changed for this but been around ages penis beaker, Sistine chapel, Babs the mad allotment squatter.

Brian from Hull. Cancel the cheque

TheAllotmentThief · 12/04/2024 17:26

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Withdrawn at OP's request.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 12/04/2024 17:27

FKAT · 12/04/2024 17:15

If any of the pro-Barbara posters aren't driving their car right now, may I borrow it for 10 years?

You can have mine. It would be colonial to refuse.

godmum56 · 12/04/2024 17:29

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Withdrawn at OP's request.

oh goodness yes, forgot those

Gringlewald · 12/04/2024 17:30

Your insurers/lawyers may not be happy about this being on a public forum just in case that is useful info!

YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 17:30

dapsnotplimsolls · 12/04/2024 17:15

Does Babs have a local power base - town council, Neighbourhood Watch, bin monitor?

Oh god probably. I’m scared to google her.

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harriethoyle · 12/04/2024 17:32

godmum56 · 12/04/2024 17:21

you forgot the stables gate blocker who got blocked in with a teddy bear camping party

Every time I see a Ford Ranger, I inwardly laugh about that thread.

@YaMuvva I'm Yorkshire way, I'll come and be part of a human shield protecting your allotment 24/7 🤣

LlynTegid · 12/04/2024 17:34

I still think how you treat 'Barbara' is different from your being sold a property with deception, and the seller should face consequences. A criminal offence was committed, and whilst you may not want to see an older person in the dock, I think you should be seeking some money back. Even if you then donate it to charity.

akkakk · 12/04/2024 17:36

Gringlewald · 12/04/2024 17:30

Your insurers/lawyers may not be happy about this being on a public forum just in case that is useful info!

why - there is nothing in here that would prejudice anything - we still live in a society where you are allowed to talk to people ;)

YaMuvva · 12/04/2024 17:36

akkakk · 12/04/2024 17:36

why - there is nothing in here that would prejudice anything - we still live in a society where you are allowed to talk to people ;)

I agree. It’s not like it’s going to go in front of a jury.

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