What % of children have different last name to mother?

[CharlotteBog]

I am wondering.
Does anyone have an idea?
This is for the UK.

My children have my surname - now married to their father, still kept my own name, and so do they. My view was I wasn't pushing out massive weans then giving them someone else's name. And I like my surname. Husband fine with that too. His friends were a bit weird - eg what if they get questions about their different surname? My answer was that well if I gave them someone else's surname, then split with Husband, they would have a different surname from me, so there would still be questions.

Mine have my DH's name. I didn't change my name. I am the only one I know who has a different surname to their DC and is still married to the dad.

It's a funny one because it's just a fact that we have a naming system in the UK that relies on tradition, and it's in a long period of readjustment (not that it's ever been 100% across the board).
People like to get arsey about it in various ways. I have been told that my children wouldn't feel they had a full maternal relationship with me if I didn't change my name so we'd all have the same surname. I've had defensive feminists go on about how my surname is simply my father's so why not take that of another man?
OTOH I know people who change because they have had abusive fathers, or they are leaving behind terrible families.
It's not always to do with being progressive, you do you!

I’m the same as you! People are quite rude about it when I’ve said I don’t want to change my surname

The thread didn't get too long in the end.

The reason I became curious was the NHS orthodontist assistant assumed my last name was the same as my sons.
We've both had to install an app to monitor my son's braces. They set me up with the wrong name. They didn't ask me what it was.
I asked them to change it, which they did without question, but I said to my son later that I thought they shouldn't have assumed my name was the same.

I imagine most are, but a significant proportion are different.

Most people do assume unless told otherwise, my friend was annoyed that the school teacher automatically called her mrs ... when she was ms maiden name despite being married.

DSis often finds medical and often school staff assumed Mrs child surname.

Though with pfb DH and I were firmly told by one MW told not to get upset that baby would have my surname in hospital not DH- it was safeguarding matching baby and mum up and we weren't to get upset - I was married and had taken DH name my MW notes all said Mrs and Mr same name and we'd introduced ourselves with surname - DH was there. We just smiled and nodded and got onto next point.

My sisters and I must be an exception because none of us have the same surname as our children. (3 sisters, 4 fathers, 7 children)

Just realised not clear DSis has different surname to her kids as many/most mothers I know do.

I retained my surname after marriage. DC have father's surname. In some situations eg with school, it was problematic as I was assumed not to be the actual mother but short lived girlfriend whereas he was the 'real' parent. He is now STBEX and DC1 is no contact and wishes he had my surname but can't face the hassle of changing it. TBH I was placating STBEX and regret it.

DS has my DH's last name and I never changed mine. I often get called the wrong name but I'd prefer that to that faux cheery 'Mum' you get from HCPs and others.

I always find it strange when I come back to the UK and people expect my children and me to have the same surname and, like a PP, sometimes just write it down like that. I live in a country where I would think at least 95% of children have a different surname to their mother!

Oh God - the 'mum' is awful. I am far too literal to deal with the head fuck - I can't respond because I am too busy thinking 'are you talking to me, I am not your mum???' It's either that or the assumption I am the nanny or girlfriend.

Mother of the child with my own name is not a big ask.

I work with a lot of kids across lots demographics. I'd say 30-40% have different names from mother. Generally the fathers surname.
Many families have kids with different surnames too.
We never got married so my kids have dads surname

Well of course it would be strange to get used to a convention that is very different to what you are used to. Neither is right or wrong.

I dont think the issue here is that they assumed you and your child had the same name, rather than a medical professional when setting up a medical app didnt check personal details! That is bad!