Does your family ‘look’ like the one you grew up in?

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I grew up with

Mum, dad, boy, girl (me!)

I have

Mum (me!) dad, boy, girl

DH was

Mum, dad, boy, boy (Him!)

His brother has an identical setup to the one they grew up with: mum and dad and two boys.

Growing up I was:
Mum, dad, girl (me), girl, girl

Now I'm Mum (me), dad, boy, boy, boy

Dh was Mum, boy (him), boy

Overall dh was in a single parent two-child family and I grew up in a houseful of girls so our set up feels pretty different!

Not at all, I grew up in a single parent family with hardly any extended family nearby, it was me, my mum and sister at home. I now live with DH, DD1, DD2 and DS and we have extended family around, as well as various friends who the kids see as auntys and uncles even though they're not blood related.

Nope!

Mine was Mum, Girl, Boy (DF died when I was very young)

Ours is now: Mum, Dad, Boy, Boy, Boy!

Not at all, and that’s absolutely our choice.

I grew up the eldest of five children, living with our parents in a very overcrowded house with several extended family members, so

Mum, dad, girl, girl, girl, boy, girl, grandfather, grandmother, uncle, aunt, great-uncle.

DH is the youngest of five so

Mum, dad, boy, girl, boy, girl, boy

Our house is me, DH, DS.

It was a miserable way to grow up.

My life looks nothing like my childhood. Grew up with Mum, Dad and younger brother. My parents were wealthy and I had a very privileged childhood.

I'm a lone parent, one young son (who has multiple ND diagnosis) and one adult daughter who has left home. Life is a struggle. This is not how I imagined it would be.

Not at all. I had mom, dad, 3 girls. DH had mom, dad, 4boys 1 gir
Now it's just me, DH and 1 DS for me. DH has 1DS who's older so not with us

I always imagined having two kids like my parents did, but that is looking unlikely now. I'm happy with just me, DH and DD though. :)

In some ways, yes. Mam, Dad and three kids...same in dh's family too. But, we don't have that wider family network local to us that was almost omnipresent when I was growing up.

Ha no!! I grew up the youngest of six kids. It was mum, dad, boy,boy,boy, girl, girl, girl (me). It was a hard childhood, no money and stressed parents.

I have , me, Dh, boy, boy, boy. Very happy with our set up.

I'm an only child and so is dd. I lived with both parents growing up, whereas my exh and I share 50/50 custody, so our setup is very different. Exh has a sister and his parents divorced when he was a child. He only saw his dad at weekends. So dd's life partially mirrors mine and exh.

I grew up in a family with Mum, Dad, girl (me), girl. DH grew up in a family with Mum, Dad, boy, boy (him), girl. We only have one son at the moment. We might end up looking like DH’s family one day but we’ll never look like mine because we have a boy. It’s a bit strange having a son when I grew up in a house with mostly girls but exciting to as it’s something different. I think my dad secretly always wanted a son as well and is clearly really enjoying having a grandson. It would be nice to experience having a girl as well someday but obviously I can’t choose that and I will love and cherish any children that I’m lucky enough to have.

Pretty much. Two parents, two kids. Similar house. I’ve pretty much married my father which is terrifying and he has pretty much married his mum 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not at all, I grew up living with my mum, grandmother and sister. I now have me, DH and 2 girls. DH grew up in a pretty identical set up to what we have now of his mum, dad, him and his sister.

Yes in that I am married with two dc.

But our relationship is much happier than my parents and we both work so our split chores, childcare and time spent in and out of the house is very different. We have two dds with a smaller age gap than between my brother and me.

We also rent (my mum often reminds me that they bought their first house for just over twice one of their salaries... thanks mum!)

Not really.
Mine was: Mum, Dad, Girl, Girl

We have:
Me, DH, Girl, Boy, Girl (twins)

DH grew up with:
Mum, Dad, Girl, Boy, Girl.

We both basically envisaged recreating our own families (I don't know if this is just a lack of imagination). Twins took any decision about whether to have a third child out of our hands. To me, in some ways being one of three looks better and in some ways worse.

Nope - Mum, Dd (me). Dad every weekend.
DH - Mum, DD, DS, DS2 (him), DD2. Dad occasionally.
Us - Mum, Dad, DS1, DS2, DS3

I love our family unit and love having 3 children being an only child myself. It’s funny - well maybe a strong word - how large families usually want less children and only children usually want more! Grass is always greener, I guess!

Nothing like it.
I grew up with my Mum, Boy, Girl (me) Boy. My Dad was in and out of our lives, maybe 50/60% there but when he was ‘with us’ he often worked away.

My family now is Mum (me), Dad, Boy, Boy.

I was the first woman in my line not to have a girl after a boy but DH’s family are predominantly boys.

No. I was an only child - Dad, Mum and Son.

DW was Dad (on and off; more off than on) Mum, Daughter and Son.

We are Dad, Mum, Son and Daughter.

No, I grew up with my mum, dad and 5 of us children. I’m single and childless now and live alone.

Nope, I am one of six children and my very glamorous Mother was married 4 times, widowed twice, she was engaged six times.

I will have been married for 25 years in 2 months time and together almost 28 years. We did have two children but sadly DD died a few years ago so it’s the three of us now, DH, myself and DS. DS has a long term GF now who fits in so well with us I’m hoping they stay together. Personality wise she is just like my DH.

no. I grew up raised by my single mum and it was me and my older brother, my Nan was also around a lot to help.

my family is now me, DP and DSS.

Similar set up for me. 3 kids, very similar age gaps but all girls whereas I have a brother

DH also has an older daughter.

For DH very different. He has one much older brother that he grew up with. It's complicated though as he's adopted and "now" has 3 sisters which is more like our own family!

Both of us from 2 parent households where parents are still together. As are we....just about! DH bro is on his 3rd wife so nothing like his upbringing. He also has 4 kids, 2 boys, 2 girls aged 6-mid 20s!

Kind of. i’m an only child with an only. But my dad was flaky and in and out of our lives a lot.

our house will be me, dh, dd- out of choice.

my mum had an only so I had more opportunities and she was a shift worker (and solo parent on and off) so juggling me was tricky enough…

i am only having one because i want more resources for dd and also more time for DH and myself- but things are a lot more comfortable than they were for my mum and it’s much more of a choice. My mum didn’t want another child with my flaky dad and money was tight. She’d have liked to have more kids, really and is v disappointed in me because I ‘have a nice husband’

i hope my dd grows up with her dad always around. I’d have preferred that over any hypothetical sibling.

I think it was somewhat close during my first marriage as in just standard family.

Grew up
Mum, Dad, girl, girl, girl, girl, girl

1st marriage
Me, DH ☠️, girl, boy

2nd marriage
Me, DH💔 kids were grown by time I remarried

Now
Me 😊