Short version: please tell me positive stories of separation and how you are now so much happier!
long version/moan: I have finally made the solid decision to leave my husband. Today was a smallish disagreement but every time we argue I have such a strong urge to just run.
At the best we are muddling by, on the worst days I feel so aggitated and hateful towards him because of how he nakes me feel. He is so smug, patronising, his way is always right, constantly irritated by our 5 year old and nothing like the father I thought he would be (that's the part that really gets to me). He won't cook or do any if the life admin, I even have to write the Thank you letters to his grandparents for his birthday gift or it won't get done and I feel bad for them not hearing anything after a generous gift.
I've suffered with my mental health my whole life but these past few years I just feel so empty and flat. I've been realising that it's not actually because of my MH, it's because I am so unhappy in my marriage.
Now the decision is made I'm not sure what to do. Getting somewhere to live is going to be difficult, I earn an OK wage but rent is so expensive. I'll be responsible for all the childcare as well. I know he will still see our child and am confident he will pay his child payments, but he will be no support otherwise in raising our child im certain. I'm pretty worried about it all.
Positive stories of separation are most welcome!!