Affair

[Nicetobenice67]

Many years ago my sister’s husband had an affair he left my sister for this woman …she was devastated to say the least especially has she had 2 young children….he is no longer with this woman …anyway it turns out this woman is best friends with my boss and is coming to work a function with us next week I don’t want to speak to the woman plus I have loyalty to my sister …what would you guys do ??

Just avoid her.

Be the bare minimum of civil if you have to talk.

Say "oh I think you know much sister Julie actually" and she will avoid you as well.

If you’re in a work environment I’d be nothing but professional.

We both know each other when he cheated with her I wasn’t polite to her let’s put it that way or him for that matter …she is friends with my boss so I need to be careful don’t want to create drama but want nothing to do with the 🤬

Just ignore her, be polite if interaction is unavoidable. If alcohol is likely to make you less polite, avoid drinking.

We will be working …she came to work this function last year I completely ignored her but you could feel the elephant in the room

If you've already had an altercation then she will be avoiding you too, she's hardly going to come up and try to be your best mate.

You'll be working, I've worked with plenty of arseholes in my time, just make sure any interaction is civil and minimal.

If she's your bosses mate then your boss will likely already know and be keeping an eye on you anyway, so just be professional or you could end up in trouble.

Yip just be professional.

Thank you yes exactly that ….and even though time has lapsed I was just wondering if ppl think I’m being unreasonable by ignoring her I know my sister would be horrified if she knew and would not expect me to acknowledge het

It's a work thing, you'll look daft if you blatantly ignore her, and may get into trouble.

Fair enough if you bumped into each other in the pub or something, but at work you need to be professional.

Your sister can't expect you to get into trouble at work over your reaction to something that happened many years ago.

She will likely be trying to avoid you too, and your boss will know so you won't be put near each other anyway.

you don’t know my boss …but your right I can still be professional and just say hi but that’s it