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Birthday cake question...

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isitbananatimealready · 09/04/2024 13:48

Quick straw poll - if you asked your DH to go and buy a birthday cake for your adult daughter, what would you expect him to come home with?

A - an actual Birthday cake

B - a caterpillar cake

C - a chocolate gateau

D - some other random cake

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DappledThings · 09/04/2024 13:49

Any of those options would be fine and fit the bill

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 09/04/2024 13:50

I'd be happy with any of those

CuttingMeOpenthenHealingMeFine · 09/04/2024 13:50

A or B, but if they weren’t available then anything would do. Cake is cake.

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Alwaysalwayscold · 09/04/2024 13:50

Why are B and C not considered actual birthday cakes?

heavencakes · 09/04/2024 13:51

All would be fine apart from if he chose a flavour DD didn't like.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 09/04/2024 13:51

I love a gateau not enough around these days

thedendrochronologist · 09/04/2024 13:52

D- any cake including A B C

What do you mean by A?

We have a preference for caterpillars though

I hate the crappy tray bakes that and supermarket cakes are really shit generally TBH

In fact so much so I bake one last time I needed a birthday cake and I baked a Victoria Sponge with blackcurrent jam- would that be a birthday cake?

newmum0604 · 09/04/2024 13:52

A or B. If I wanted A I would show pictures of what I had in mind.

Caffeineneedednow · 09/04/2024 13:52

Anything I'm an adult and love a good caterpillar cake but really cake is cake. Pop and candle in it and enjoy

CrushingOnRubies · 09/04/2024 13:54

Any of those are acceptable

Although on a personal note chocolate gateau is the only thing that I've narrowed down that gives me migraines so I'd be annnoyed if that was brought and I was the birthday girl

DappledThings · 09/04/2024 13:54

What did he get OP and why did it not meet your secret brief?

TunaCrunchy · 09/04/2024 13:55

100% B

MrsDrSpencerReid · 09/04/2024 13:55

Any of these would be fine with me, as long as it was a flavour dd liked.

Mine would come back with a Woolies mud cake, a birthday staple in Australia!

Revelatio · 09/04/2024 13:56

Anything is a birthday cake if you put candles on it! I’m not a cake fan, but those who like it in my household would be over the moon with any (especially a gateaux), so D!

MissyB1 · 09/04/2024 13:56

Any of them.

NannyR · 09/04/2024 13:57

As an adult, I would prefer a gateau or something like a carrot or coffee cake, (or even a chocolate caterpillar!) to a generic, supermarket birthday cake which are often flavourless and too much icing.

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isitbananatimealready · 09/04/2024 13:57

When I texted him, I asked him to buy an actual birthday cake.

As far as I'm concerned, a birthday cake is just that - an iced and decorated sponge cake, ideally with the words 'Happy Birthday' on it. The addition of a pack of candles would have been a bonus.

Not a small 4-person coffee and walnut cake. The annoying thing is, I was about to go past a supermarket when I texted him to see if he'd bought one, and he replied yes.

Oh well....
Confused

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nokidshere · 09/04/2024 13:57

Mine would be happiest with b or c but would happily eat any cake.

Leafbuds · 09/04/2024 14:00

oh I'd much prefer a coffee and walnut cake, and you could put candles on it. I've never had a cake that actually said happy birthday! The definition of a birthday cake to me is that it is eaten for a birthday, and it's a treat of some sort.

ButterflyKu · 09/04/2024 14:02

A coffee and walnut cake😂😂😂 did he bother getting any candles?!

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isitbananatimealready · 09/04/2024 14:02

Alwaysalwayscold · 09/04/2024 13:50

Why are B and C not considered actual birthday cakes?

Well B is, obviously, but there was another birthday in the family three weeks ago and they had one of those.

C - well, if I'd asked him to buy a lovely big chocolate gateau as a birthday cake it would have been fine, but I didn't. I'd have preferred it if he had.

(Incidentally, the reason he was buying it and not me is that I was at work and he wasn't)

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isitbananatimealready · 09/04/2024 14:04

ButterflyKu · 09/04/2024 14:02

A coffee and walnut cake😂😂😂 did he bother getting any candles?!

No of course not 😂

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dirtyblond · 09/04/2024 14:07

id be very happy with the coffe and walnut cake. That is a lovely birthday cake, and much better than an oversweet sickly iced one

shenandoahvalley · 09/04/2024 14:07

I think you're being a bit harsh. This is an adult child, a small cake (for the 3 of you?) is fine. The offspring is an adult. I don't think a hoopla is required.

A caterpillar cake would have been funny. An iced cake with "Happy Birthday" iced onto it is a bit infantilising and actually probably the worst option. Anything else, with frosting or icing, would be totally acceptable.

Runningoutofusernamestochange · 09/04/2024 14:07

A. Ideally personalised.
B if it were a known preference.
The other two I’d be upset and not feel they were special enough. What does your dd think?