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Advice needed - ex won't return DS

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firsttimemum1234567 · 08/04/2024 18:48

Posting here for traffic

So to cut a long story short, ex has ds on weekends and ds lives with me. I got a call from social services saying a report has been made by ex saying he's concerned about ds in my care making wild claims that I'm a drug user and prostitute which is completely untrue and absurd. Social worker said herself that it didn't make any sense and told me to try and mediate with him but this call was prior to ex saying he's not giving ds back. He's completely refusing, my mum even called begging for my son back but he's saying no. I luckily still have all evidence of previous domestic violence, he bit me, threw my phone in my face, years ago.

He believes he'll get full custody from his false claims and just plainly not returning ds to me. His actions are erratic and I believe he must be going through some mental health issues of some sort to do all this. He doesn't even care if ds isn't at preschool. What's the quickest way to get my darling son back?

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Kissmystarfish · 08/04/2024 18:52

Have you posted in two places or did my reply not send?!?

Andthereyougo · 08/04/2024 18:52

Was his violence reported to the police?
I’d call 101 for advice. You can lodge a concern for ex’s mental health.
When was ds supposed to be returned to you?

Cazpar · 08/04/2024 18:52

If he doesn't have PR, call the police.

If he does have PR, call a solicitor tomorrow.

MILTOBE · 08/04/2024 18:55

You must be feeling desperate. Does he have a history of poor mental health?

Alwaysalwayscold · 08/04/2024 18:57

I'd call the police.

hulahoopqueen · 08/04/2024 18:58

If you have evidence of prior domestic violence and this is a rapid and uncharacteristic of behaviour, I would call the police now and state you are concerned for your son's immediate safety.

hulahoopqueen · 08/04/2024 19:00

Just seen your other thread. File an emergency court order, and get as good a solicitor as you can afford.

MILTOBE · 08/04/2024 19:01

hulahoopqueen · 08/04/2024 18:58

If you have evidence of prior domestic violence and this is a rapid and uncharacteristic of behaviour, I would call the police now and state you are concerned for your son's immediate safety.

Yes, that's what I'd do.

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