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Nobody really cares about victims

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Kaycal · 07/04/2024 19:29

I wasn’t sure where to post this, but I’m feeling upset and need to get it off my chest.
When I was 9 I was assaulted by a boy in my year and it was a big trauma for me. I did get support and I am now at peace with what happened. I couldn’t even remember his last name but my sister remembered. This weekend I found out that he was recently jailed for another assault (more serious obviously), and the article mentioned previous convictions. This has brought back so many memories, but also so much anger for the first time why such a person was allowed to be out and hurt others repeatedly.
I remember him but not in much detail. Of course we young and I would not have expected anything to happen on the back of what he did, but to think that he could
commit “previous convictions” before being locked up has me so upset, and makes me doubt that victims are ever truly considered by our justice system. I bet nobody even knows what happened to me, apart from my family and my old school and it has me so angry. I really wish there was a more stringent approach which would see people locked up to protect others, rather than to rehabilitate.

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HelloMiss · 07/04/2024 19:31

'Locked up' for how long??

BlancheSaysYes · 07/04/2024 19:35

I was assaulted by a male relative when I was 9 and was disbelieved by every single adult around me. I only felt relief when I heard he had died.
Channel your anger, fight for young victims of abuse, be their voice. That's what I have tried to do.

Bridgetta · 07/04/2024 19:35

I’ve come around to the point of view that mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent. I agree with you. People have this idea that young offenders can be rehabilitated but I believe that it is hardwired and rehabilitation is quite impossible in most cases.

LadyEloise1 · 07/04/2024 20:11

I am so sick of soft sentencing.
The victim's rights come second to the perpetrator's rights.
How did we allow our criminal justice system in Ireland and the UK get to this point ?

HelloMiss · 07/04/2024 20:18

It's sentencing guidelines....courts have to adhere to them

Also

Our prisons are full....and there's no money

Bridgetta · 07/04/2024 21:11

HelloMiss · 07/04/2024 20:18

It's sentencing guidelines....courts have to adhere to them

Also

Our prisons are full....and there's no money

If prisons are full I know a good way to reduce that number — if you only executed people that were caught red-handed on CCTV that is still a lot of people tbh …

HelloMiss · 07/04/2024 21:31

I don't think that's 'a good way' at all

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