I'm getting married Saturday...best advice!?

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Hi,

I'm getting married next Saturday.
I'm feeling excited, nervous, worried I will say DP name wrong ( I don't know why!) , I know I will cry with emotion most of the day...

What is the best advise you have from your wedding day?

Been married nearly 30 years, but my advice would definitely not to sweat the small stuff ….. when you get to my age, it’s all small stuff!! There will always be critics of how you have planned your day, but have no regrets about anything you have planned . If anything goes “wrong” or not to plan… try to see the silver lining!!!

Definitely eat something. Also, I didn't get any of the pre dinner hotel nibbles and nobody saved me any so I was miffed about that because I was starving. You're allowed to get a bit bossy. Certain people were out of line at my wedding and I wished I had been more assertive. If I'm honest my guests spoilt it. So focus on your own enjoyment, don't let anyone lower the tone (maybe your family and friends are much nicer).

Don’t save any ‘jobs’ for the morning of the wedding e.g steaming dresses. Time absolutely flies by. I learned this from a friends wedding so I did mine the night before and they were fine the next day.

Do eat breakfast even if you don’t feel like it (I did not and regretted it 😅)

Do take a few minutes to yourself before you head down the aisle and just breathe.
Don’t sweat the small stuff, things will go ‘wrong’ e.g we had welshcakes for the welcome drinks and they didn’t get brought out until it was almost over, things hadn’t been set out as discussed with the venue but in reality it didn’t really matter.

Do take time to take in moments e.g pause at the top of the aisle for a few seconds, turn and look at all your guests whilst you and DH are stood for the ceremony, unlikely to have the same group of people together for an event again!

Mostly enjoy yourself!

Good luck OP 😊

Also make sure you ask someone specifically to save you some cake (if you’re having one!)
We didn’t have a chance to get a slice, having too much fun to realise so I’m very glad my mum had kept us a few slices of each tier.

Take time during the day to actually look round and see what’s going on. At the table look up and see the room. During the night look at the room.

first dance hold his hand and look at the room. Cutting the cake etc

dance on the dancefloor

They will be the only moments you really remember because it’s hectic.

enjoy it.. all the people you love are together to celebrate you both and it’s amazing

I completely agree about not wasting the day with lots of professional photos.

Make sure they save some drink and canapes for you and your husband. By the time we got back from having photos done it was mostly taken.

Don't worry too much about having to spend time with everyone. Make sure you carve out some quality time with your husband - I feel like I hardly spent anytime with mine and I regret that.

Another thing I did was hold my bouquet in every photo and you can't really see my dress.

I tried to please everyone else and really you just need to please yourself and your husband. I hated my hair and make up and should have just said rather than trying to be agreeable.

Enjoy 💕💐

make sure you and dh, together or separately, talk to all your guests.

don’t get drunk.

enjoy it,

Aww, congratulations! I got married last May and it absolutely was one of the best day of my life. I'm in my fifties so perhaps my priorities will be different but here's what I found helpful.

Don't hold too tightly to how you think things should go. Allow the day to unfold as it will.

Definitely don't drink too much - you won't want to miss the day.

I took a few moments to myself as well as with my new husband (partner of ten plus years), just to appreciate the day and the joy of the moment I found myself in. My day did not feel like it flew by at all. I put it down to this deliberate mindful appreciation

Perfection doesn't exist. I didn't love my make up or hair but not enough to give it a second thought. This stuff really doesn't matter.

If you can, don't spend too much time with your photographer. You won't bother with half the photos and you'll miss the best part of the wedding - which is immediately after. We actually had our pics taken before anyone arrived so we didn't miss a moment with our loved ones. (All the other pics were long lens/natural).

Lastly, I've told you what worked for me, you may have different priorities. Enjoy! And all the best for your life together.

Don't sweat the small stuff - especially the stuff you can't change.

Relax and don't drink too much.

And finally, give your phone to a trusted person to look after and ask them to take photos so you have some as soon as the day is over. I didn't plan to do this, but on the day suddenly realised I didn't know what to do with it, so my MOH put it in her bag... her DH took it upon himself to use it to take loads of photos, I didn't realise until midway through the evening, but it was a nice surprise and meant we had some photos to look back on straight away.

This is really lovely.

Have fun.
Remember, no-one knows what it was supposed to be like, so when the florist delivers the wrong flowers, just go with it. Especially when they're nicer than what you chose!
Try to leave a bit early, and go and get in a big bubbly bath with your new spouse, open the fizz, and then unwrap some presents!

Have a decent breakfast. I was glad I asked one of my bridesmaids to do a bacon butty run on her way to mine as I barely ate for the rest of the day and I missed the canapes we'd so carefully chosen because I was trying to go to the loo while fighting with several layers of dress!
I wish I'd had my phone with me on the day. My husband got loads of photos and selfies.

I have seen some very scowly brides when arrangements haven't gone quite to plan. You can't make big groups of people do exactly your bidding, so just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is.

Make sure your bridesmaid or other trusted friend is on hand to check you look ok for the photos. Dress as it should be, veil etc all in the right place.

Don't get drunk.

As pp have said, take time to breathe, look around and take it all in. Ask an usher to set a reminder on their phone to give you a nudge otherwise you might forget.