what to do 🤷‍♀️

[wavingfuriously]

very lonely, ugly, 64, limited resources and very few friends. why am I still alive?

Hold on lovely. Hold on in your own way, one minute, then one hour, one day, one week.
I promise that what you are feeling at this very moment is temporary, one day you will smile again and this feeling will be a distant memory.

I hear you. I’m similar age and totally, 100% pissed off with “life” in the UK.

Has anything particularly upset you today?

Yes thanks for asking, remaining family getting much older and withdrawing from a certain type of help they gave me. It wasn't the right kind of help anyway but at least it was something 🤷‍♀️

66 here. I'm sure you are not ugly.. I'm sure you have a lot going for you .
Do you have friends you see? Chat to?
Other family members?
Any social groups you go to.
When my friends/ sister/ daughters were working and l wasn't and got fed up and was skint. I used to get the bus to town and thought to myself.. I've got a tenner. I'm going to go and have a cuppa in M& S cafe then spend £5 in the pound shop. Usually buying some hand cream.. a candle .. chocolate a puzzle book.. so when l got home l was pleased with my little purchases.
Cheered me up.
I'm sending you a hug and hope things improve. 🌹

awww sweetheart have you thought about volunteering somewhere even 1 day a week gets you out of the house and interacting with like minded people ,
maybe look at a part time college course with a skill like art or cooking attached,
im 67 and i still work part time fundraising online for a cat charity and it honestly keeps me sane as well as making some money for them

Thank you for kind replies , I've had to stop doing volunteering such as it was..due to having to sort hoarding situation out and guess having lots empty time has backfired a bit .. but I am unattractive which is a disadvantage.
Thanku again🙂

Having too much spare time is rubbish for mental health…do you think you might be depressed?

I loved something Miriam Margolyes says in her autobiography. When young, she realised she was not beautiful, but she knew that she had a lot of energy, and ‘energy is always attractive’. I think that’s very true, regardless of your looks.

I think if you can change one thing, however small, that might be a start.
I had bad health news this week the same day as news about another health condition that really pissed me off ( borders on medical negligence, really gave me the rage once I got out the hospital) so I’ve devised a plan. I can’t fix A or B as I’m not a doctor but I can fix another problem.
I live very rural so not a lot going on but have you looked at U3A? Often a few groups in an area so if one has nothing you’re interested in another might. Coach day trips? Start from about £15 where I am and you can always take lunch. Free talks and tours of theatres or museums.
And I’ve never seen an ugly person, ever, anywhere. We’re all different, I’ve got wrinkles and a lot of saggy bits, I was never going to be a model ever, but it’s a bit like Shirley Valentine’s stretch marks — shows we’ve lived.

Love your post 🙏 thinking bout what you've said ...thanku x

What can you do at this moment that would improve things? Is it your hoarding situation? Please feel free to vent on here.

Those few friends...meet up a couple of times a month?

I have a friend I see occasionally and we just sit at a table with a coffee and laugh. Laugh laugh laugh. Nobody is unattractive when they are laughing!

Cheap day out too

Also....animals? Dog/cat ... they bring joy to many. Sometimes better company than humans

Thank you yes I do take my friend's dog out for walks and cuddles but even that has lost its attraction..

@wavingfuriously oooh bless U ,try joining a singles group on fbook or something U might find someone on there who's willing to take u on ,looks arnt everything , I'm single I was never fortunate enought to have somebody to love and cherris me and make me feel special ,dating sites are not for me but might work for u xxx