Grooming

[Petalflowerbee]

Hi I’m really in need of some advice I’m worried about my nieces daughter she is 11 and she is receiving text messages from a 50 year old man with mental health issues he is sending selfies and telling her he has a surprise for her he has brought her gifts already such as a trampoline she also responds to his messages I cant raise my concerns with her mother who is a narcissist and will only see it as a attack on her ability as a parent her mother and I are no longer on talking terms since my sister passed away (her mother ) she only cares a about money and puts herself first she has turned her daughter against her farther and there is an on going court case so he can get more access to his daughter he lives in America he says in the court proceedings he feels the child’s mother is emotionally abusing her and has turned the child against him I’m worried the child is being groomed I don’t know what to do my mum also lives with my niece and her daughter and doesn’t talk to me because I criticise my niece about how she has divided the family since my sister passed away my mum doesn’t want to hear anything truthful about my nieces behaviour and will only support her and always takes her side if I say anything my mum will probably cut me out her life forever and just say I am causing trouble as usual any advice would be greatly appreciated
thanks

Call the police? Talk to the school?

I'd report it

How do you know? Did she tell you?

Police and social services, simple.

My daughter met up with my niece and her daughter and saw the messages on the child’s phone I know I should report it and I will I’m just worried I will make everything worse between my mum and me she will never speak to me again and say I am exaggerating it’s not easy to be cut of from family I’m so scared about what will happen once I report it and if my mum will know it was me 😔

Call the police

Please report it. As a family who's been torn apart by grooming you must do it.

Report anonymously

Enough that you aren't the only adult responsible for carrying the baton of protecting her

One day you'll be thanked.

Call the police. You have to protect that child.

I feel so angry that my niece has allowed her daughter to give her number to this man he visits my mums house often and is friends with my brother my niece and her daughter live with my mum

I haven’t visited my mum in over a year because my niece has made sure I don’t feel welcome there anymore it’s just so heartbreaking. Do you know what sort of action the police will take if I report it to them ? I was thinking to maybe contact cafcass there is a court proceeding this month and they are involved in the case I just want to cause the least distress and distribution to the young girls life

That's far from normal
Who hands out their kids number to a 50 yr old man with issues and I'd be concerned of him forming attachment behaviour.
Definitely get as involved.

Ss involved