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How the hell do I put consequence in place for these two?

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SpiltCoffee · 05/04/2024 20:35

Unacceptable behaviour from both sons.
16 yr old walked on 18yr olds knees (sort of, semi half stepped on their knees as going up a ladder, iyswim,not minimising but it wasnt full weight. But still not ok) 18 yr old reacted (obviously!) Sayi g how many times have I told you not to do that?? And sprayed 16 with air freshener. 16 then tackled 18 and they fought, on our bed in our room, in dd room, chasing each other through the house, in the garden 16 was trying to catch breath, 18 still sprayed the can out the window athim, so he threw a slipper up at the window, ending back inside, in one on each side of the door of their room, pushing/holding it with 18 still spraying the can at 16. 16 has a history of asthma btw. At one point 16 was in such a rage he picked up the vacuum and threw it at the door and it now has a small hole in it. I am utterly disgusted and furious at both of them. Even while I was between them 18 was refusing to give me the spray can, and 16 was trying to shoot water out of a bottle at 18. Both were in a complete rage at each other.
I was calm and trying to hear both of their sides and tell them both off, and ended up saying I would take both if their phones if needed. 18 has said they are an adult and I cant do that. And 16 heas refused.
These two are usually very very close and nothing like this has happened before .
What the hell do I do?

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Sprinkles211 · 05/04/2024 22:07

That's pretty tame from how me and my sibling was lol we totally love each other but we often physically messed about total silly normal behaviour

MultiplaLight · 05/04/2024 22:10

They have to work together to pay for a new door.

I'd have a serious sit down family conversation about how we conduct ourselves at home. Follow up with a one strike and you're out rule. I'd come down hard because I wouldn't want a repeat. The 18yo needs to act like an adult if they want to be treated like one.

Maray1967 · 25/09/2024 16:19

Who pays for the phone? If you do, then remind your smartarse DS18 of that fact. I’ve had to do similar.

I agree with the suggestions above. Firm line on behaviour and shared payment for door repair or replacement, docking allowance if necessary or allocating jobs in lieu of money.

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