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Handhold please.... Sat in a and e....

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HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 02:34

With my 15 year old son, who went to a party and got so drunk he was unresponsive

Equal parts angry and worried about him as completely out of character

Also angry at the parents who hosted a party for year 10's, let them drink, and then left him in the garden, in the rain, covered in his own sick until one of his friends let me know where he was

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INeedNewShoes · 05/04/2024 02:44

Handhold here.

You’re in the right place and he’ll be fine.

Although it’s horrible tonight, 15 is a good age to learn this lesson about alcohol while he’s still living at home with you to look after him. Most teens I know who have done this only do it once as it’s a lesson learned the hard way.

Can you check with his friends it’s definitely just alcohol?

ThisNiftyMintCat · 05/04/2024 02:48

OMG!!! Wtf how irresponsible of those parents to leave him in the garden like that. 15 year old have no idea of how to drink responsibly so I wouldn't be too angry at him - you want to keep the lines of communication open. Tell him that if he drinks he needs to count how many standards he's drinking.

Most young people will black out once or twice when they are working out how much is too much, and a lot of young people start drinking before 15. He will be OK OP ❤️

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HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 02:50

Thanks both

He's admitted that he got a friend to buy the drink, it was only alcohol

He's incredibly remorseful

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MrsPositivity1 · 05/04/2024 03:20

Ah I’m sorry this has happened but hopefully it will put him off alcohol for a while.

i hope you both get home soon

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HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 03:24

MrsPositivity1 · 05/04/2024 03:20

Ah I’m sorry this has happened but hopefully it will put him off alcohol for a while.

i hope you both get home soon

Blood tests and IV fluids en route

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Netaporter · 05/04/2024 03:37

@HotChocWine you poor thing. We’ve all been there to an extent. Sounds like the parents hosting a party are either incredibly naive to think kids won’t drink or plain irresponsible. You will get through this. Your DD’s friend sounds sensible to have rung you.

Moving forward try and establish what he drank - 15 yo usually head for cheap spirits and have no idea what a measure is, especially if you don’t drink at home so consider chatting through that when you’re back at home and had some sleep. I used to send mine to parties with 2 (sometimes 3) of the pre-mixed drinks in a can so a) they knew what they were drinking and b) pre-mixed drinks have 5% strength as opposed to drinking 40% proof neat.

On the (very small) upside, He’ll have the hangover from hell so likely to be put off drinking for a good while.

MoreRainbowsPlease · 05/04/2024 03:38

Sorry this has happened. I have a 15 yo DS and this is one of my nightmares. My DB one had to be taken to hospital when so drunk he was unrousable (he has health issues which could have been masked by the alcohol), he was older than your DS and fortunately had better friends who bought him home and explained what had happened. We took him to hospital where after a few hours and 2 drips he woke up and didn't feel too bad. My DM and I on the other hand felt wretched after a night of worrying and no sleep! The good thing though was he never ever got that drunk again.

Have a good chat with him tomorrow and then possibly go mental at the other parents (I'm only slightly joking).

SheepAndSword · 05/04/2024 03:43

Oh dear - he's probably vomited quite a lot of it up, he's in a safe place.

Hope you have a coffee/chocolate and it doesn't take too long

scaredofff · 05/04/2024 03:46

Oh dear you must have been so worried. He's in the best place. I hope you get comfy x

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HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 03:48

SheepAndSword · 05/04/2024 03:43

Oh dear - he's probably vomited quite a lot of it up, he's in a safe place.

Hope you have a coffee/chocolate and it doesn't take too long

I came in my PJs and slippers, not even my card!

I also have to try and find cover for work, meant to be opening at 8.15, so will need to ask my boss nicely if he can cover

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Blondiiiii · 05/04/2024 03:49

Hope he starts feeling better OP and you get yourself a nice coffee and a snack to get some energy to last the night xxx

MumChp · 05/04/2024 03:54

Learning by doing. He'll be fine but yes no great fun. I hope you can have the day off from work.

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HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 04:21

MumChp · 05/04/2024 03:54

Learning by doing. He'll be fine but yes no great fun. I hope you can have the day off from work.

Ah I wish.

We've been told 4 hours for the IV fluids then he should be able to go home. I will then have to get sorted and head into work

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Hiker50 · 05/04/2024 04:29

You poor thing. Thank goodness you found him. I really hope hes learnt his lesson and that you get some sleep tonight.

MumChp · 05/04/2024 04:32

HotChocWine · 05/04/2024 04:21

Ah I wish.

We've been told 4 hours for the IV fluids then he should be able to go home. I will then have to get sorted and head into work

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I'm sorry. I hope you have a quite weekend.

ISAR · 05/04/2024 04:38

Handhold..
I hope he learned his lesson and will be more careful with drinks and won't get influenced by others.

pinkwaterbottle9 · 05/04/2024 04:47

Oh no how worrying! Hopefully when he's recovered he'll have learnt his lesson to be more careful next time. Hope all sorted soon.

SheepAndSword · 05/04/2024 06:25

A couple of my friends had their stomach pumped as a teen, so at least it's not that bad.

They're probably being cautious with the fluids.

It's Friday isn't it so assuming you work M-F he'll probably sleep all day when you drop him off and hopefully work will pass pretty quickly. Then you need some sleep yourself!

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 05/04/2024 06:40

I have a lot of empathy for both of you, and would blame the parents entirely. I don’t envy him his hangover, think he’s punished himself and hopefully learnt an early lesson.

StopStartStop · 05/04/2024 06:42

Hope he pulls round soon, with nothing worse than a memorable hangover to remind him not to do it again.

Riverlee · 05/04/2024 06:44

Hoping that ds is okay .

SheepAndSword · 05/04/2024 14:29

@HotChocWine how are you both doing today?

endofthelinefinally · 05/04/2024 14:34

That was massively irresponsible of the adults. Frankly, he could have died. I am so sorry, thank goodness he will be ok.

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HotChocWine · 06/04/2024 07:54

SheepAndSword · 05/04/2024 14:29

@HotChocWine how are you both doing today?

Thank you for asking
We were discharged around lunchtime yesterday.
My boss was fantastic and told me to take the day, so I'm headed to work today to make the time up
DS is incredibly remorseful and I think has the learnt a lesson
Turns out he basically drained the bottle in 15 mins so it's no wonder he was in the state he was in

The only positive I can take from it is that he kept his manners throughout, even removing himself to the garden when he knew he was going to vomit. Also thanked and apologised to everyone who cared for him.

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ilovebagpuss · 06/04/2024 08:06

Oh dear hope he feels better soon and you get over the shock. How awful they left him outside!
I let my DD have a small glass of wine at home when she was 15 at a BBQ with our friends and she did similar in that she sneaked another huge glass or 2 and downed it.
Im glad in a way she was at home but it was an eye opener for her how quickly the wine acted and so on and she was so sick everywhere.
She is now 18 and has the occasional glass with us but she knows what it feels like and to stop at 1 or 2.
I would say don't demonise the experience and talk about the different booze strengths. Can of cider would have been better than wine.
I know they shouldn't be drinking but they will try something so best to be on side with them about it all.