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What is the worst thing that's ever happened to you?

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:34

This isn't really a AMA but I just wondered what's the worst thing that's ever happened to you? It could be something huge or it could be something small that has meant you have never been the same again.

Mine would probably be the abortion I had at age 17 to please my parents, I am a people pleaser and I couldn't stand the thought of disappointing them. They persuaded me to have the abortion and I'll never fully forgive them. I cried the following 10 years until my daughter was born.

I was pregnant with my first baby when lockdown hit and struggled massively with anxiety, it was probably the most anxious I've ever been and I suffer hugely with anxiety. I was lonely, terrified and thought me and my daughter would die.

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awopbopaloobopawopbamboom · 04/04/2024 19:36

My miscarriages. I'll forever think I'm superwoman for getting through them. They've changed me as a person.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:39

@awopbopaloobopawopbamboom so sorry to hear about your miscarriages, you are superwoman Flowers

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IDontDrinkTea · 04/04/2024 19:40

Pregnancy loss. One with a haemorrhage. Another one that resulted in sepsis and a weeks hospital stay.

awopbopaloobopawopbamboom · 04/04/2024 19:40

Thank you, I also had a termination when very young and it does haunt you. Things do get better.

Saddm · 04/04/2024 19:42

Phoning the police on my teenage dc knowing I would never see them again.
Boxing up that grief has been very difficult..

PermanentTemporary · 04/04/2024 19:43

Telling ds that dh had died.

Leanne1191 · 04/04/2024 19:44

lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:34

This isn't really a AMA but I just wondered what's the worst thing that's ever happened to you? It could be something huge or it could be something small that has meant you have never been the same again.

Mine would probably be the abortion I had at age 17 to please my parents, I am a people pleaser and I couldn't stand the thought of disappointing them. They persuaded me to have the abortion and I'll never fully forgive them. I cried the following 10 years until my daughter was born.

I was pregnant with my first baby when lockdown hit and struggled massively with anxiety, it was probably the most anxious I've ever been and I suffer hugely with anxiety. I was lonely, terrified and thought me and my daughter would die.

My husband cheating on me 6 months after getting married and being together over 8 years, then leaving me for this woman and having a child with her and letting our sons tell me they have a baby sister and not even mentioning she was pregnant.... I have never been the same since this has completely destroyed me as a person and I feel I cannot find myself or who I was before this happened 🤷🏼‍♀️

Deardear17 · 04/04/2024 19:44

Being sexually assaulted by my BIL and then me telling my parents caused a lot of tension between me and my sister because my dad got mad at him… he admitted what he did and said he was sorry so I shouldn’t have told, and my sister sided with him. They kept ringing me up to rant at me…
and then it was never really talked about as if it was no big deal and hadn’t really happened to me. One of my siblings told me they never felt sorry for me but only for my sister since it caused trouble in her marriage so it was a shame for my sister and not for me.

Jamiedodgers · 04/04/2024 19:47

My husbands mental breakdown whilst I was going through some serious health issues

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:50

@awopbopaloobopawopbamboom Thank you, I will always wonder who they would have been.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:51

@PermanentTemporary I am so sorry, that must have been heartbreaking.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:52

@Saddm wow, that must have been incredibly hard for you! I'm so sorry.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:53

@IDontDrinkTea How scary for you, I'm so sorry for your loss.

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PurplePansy05 · 04/04/2024 19:53

Multiple miscarriages, without a doubt. My first being a total destruction physically and emotionally.

Abusive and nasty family members too, numerous things I could list here for many years.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:54

@Jamiedodgers How hard for you when you really needed his support! I hope things are better for you now.

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lilacsunbeam · 04/04/2024 19:55

@Deardear17 Oh gosh, that sounds so awful and difficult! Sending you love.

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PutOnYourRedShoesAndLetsDance · 04/04/2024 19:56

Parents passing away.. followed by ex partner trying to kill me.. threw me under a moving bus.. left me disabled
. Broken hips/ pelvis/ bladder and vagina( can't ever have sex again had to have hysterectomy too) arms/ hands/ collar bone.. bleed on brain.. Broken eye socket.. l was on life support.. he got jailed for attempted murder.
He got out last year and tried to contact me.. I've just been having EMDR for PTSD.
Yes I did get big pay out.. took me 16 years to get it .. so had to live on benefits for 16 years .. l got just over 2 million.. but I'd give it back to have my life back.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 04/04/2024 19:57

A friend dying very unexpectedly in an accident in front of me whilst we were on holiday in another country. It was horrific, and made worse by being abroad. This was years ago, before Internet and mobiles. Trying to organise a repatriation of his body from a pay phone was awful.

HoHoHoliday · 04/04/2024 20:03

These threads are started every so often and never go well. What are you hoping for here @lilacsunbeam?
I suggest you ask for a trigger warning to be added to your post's title so that anyone who reads it is prepared for page after page of the most awful experiences that will inevitably be added.

Wooloohooloo · 04/04/2024 20:05

Well getting married was my worse mistake but that was my own fault. Probably losing my mum fairly young and more recently my dad.

Pixiesgirl · 04/04/2024 20:09

Steady on Colin Robinson, none of your bloody business, what is the point of these threads?

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