feeling guilty because we hardly go out at the moment

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I'm 23 weeks pregnant and it's been fucking hideous from day 1 - horrendous sickness which has tapered off a bit now to be replaced by utterly debilitating fatigue (my bloods are all fine). I have just about enough energy to shower, dress, cook, attend to my DS and do essential daily household tasks. My 7 YO DS on his Easter holidays is very very very much a homebody (ASD) and takes a great deal of persuading at any time to get outside, particularly when wet and windy (which it feels like it is every day at the moment in the South West). He wants to be indoors reading or drawing. We've had the neighbours' kids over to play a couple of times but mostly he prefers to be on his own. I've been trying to get us out for a walk every day but I have to admit the past 3 days we just haven't been anywhere, I haven't got the energy to battle over it and it's so grey and miserable out there. I do try to make sure he at least runs around the garden daily.

I don't drive (can't due to a seizure disorder) which usually isn't an issue as we walk or take public transport everywhere but my energy levels are just on the floor at the moment and DH is away working for 3 weeks.

I feel so guilty!!!

You can only do what you can do and your child seems happy and will barely even remember this time in future. I'm 12 weeks pregnant myself and have terrible sickness too, my 5yo has been mostly left to her own devices the past two days and tomorrow will be the same. I did ask her if she'd rather go to holiday club tomorrow but she said she'd rather stay at home. Way too much screen time and the rest of the time she just has to play by herself, all I can manage is sorting her meals/snacks/drinks and thats it as I vomit if I move around much at all. Grim but it will pass.

Your child is happy, do what you need to.

my son is 14 and has autism, he needs a big chunk of school holidays to be at home in order to regulate himself from the stress of school. We went out today for the first time since Sunday. We aim for one or two trips out a week during holidays.

Don’t feel guilty, he doesn’t want to go out, you don’t want to go out, socialising with other kids has already happened… nobody needs to go out! Enjoy this peaceful calm time with your DS before the baby comes along.

thanks both. If the weather was decent I think we'd both be more inclined to go somewhere but it's just been continually awful.