Page 6 | Do kids get bored doing the same thing every day?

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 13:51

@remembe my friend has one like that, she actually doesn’t like leaving home.

I don’t actually mind being at home with one or the other of mine, it’s the combination of them that has me needing therapy! I find the three year old does things that aren’t too terrible but just things like emptying jigsaws on the floor taking books off the bookshelves … not the end of the world but sometimes a change of scene just resets everyone. He actually just had a football lesson and was so nice to say yay well done not oh put that down!

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Cantaloupes · 07/04/2024 13:52

I don't think that he'd necessarily get bored but it isn't ideal to be taking him there every day: plus they tend to be noisy, overstimulating places. Which may be why he is quite difficult for you to manage at home...

What do you tend to do after soft play?

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 14:00

Normally we don’t. Easter holidays and bad weather. It’s not like he’s been there every day since birth 😂

Sure it’s my fault though as three year olds are never difficult, not renowned for it at all, oh no!

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 07/04/2024 14:06

@Blahblahblaaaah what were you hoping to get from this thread?

(I originally thought you maybe wanted some alternative suggestions but I've since read that not to be the case.)

BlazesBoylansHat · 07/04/2024 14:32

@Blahblahblaaaah what on earth do you want from this thread? No one here actually gives a shit whether you drag your kids to soft play 365 days of the year or not. You don't want to do anything else. The tidiness of your house is a higher priority to you than letting your 3.5yr old play at home. So...do what you're going to do anyway. I've absolutely no idea why you posted about it? But you have been incredibly rude to several posters who took the time to give you alternative suggestions.

LolaSmiles · 07/04/2024 15:19

Sure it’s my fault though as three year olds are never difficult, not renowned for it at all, oh no!
People are trying to help.

There's lots of posters who've had 3 year olds. That's why they're making suggestions. Almost every, if not every, suggestion of alternatives or things that might help has been knocked back, often in quite a rude and sarcastic way.

It sounds like you're at your wits end, are having difficulties in your marriage and are finding parenting hard. If going to soft play regularly is going to help you then do it.

Growlybear83 · 07/04/2024 15:25

@gemma19846 Sorry, I'm puzzled - I don't have a granddaughter, I just have a daughter who I referred to in my post. Have you quoted the wrong person?

Sagittarius · 07/04/2024 15:52

Blahblahblaaaah · 04/04/2024 12:42

I’ve run out of inspiration and I’m resorting to soft play every day. I don’t know if they mind or not. Just wondering what others think.

I quote your first post , you literally said you've ran out of inspiration . People have suggested various stuff , all of which has been knocked back and laughed at, you sound like hard work and you are coming across as rude TBH. I'm not going to suggest anything as it would be a waste of time, but you aren't the only one who has had the challenge of entertaining a 3 year old and baby when there is bad weather.

AnnonymousMum · 07/04/2024 17:27

At that age we went to the library a lot, we had some play cafes locally too, parks, and went to see friends and family.

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 17:40

@BlazesBoylansHat I literally ask a question. Do kids get bored doing the same thing every day?

Did I say I wanted pages of long long lists of things we could do instead of soft play? No. Did people give them anyway? Yes. Are people getting pissy because I’m not clicking my fingers and painting non existent fences with water? Yes. Why? Fuck knows!

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 07/04/2024 18:01

Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 17:40

@BlazesBoylansHat I literally ask a question. Do kids get bored doing the same thing every day?

Did I say I wanted pages of long long lists of things we could do instead of soft play? No. Did people give them anyway? Yes. Are people getting pissy because I’m not clicking my fingers and painting non existent fences with water? Yes. Why? Fuck knows!

You also said that you've 'run out of inspiration' and are 'resorting' to soft play every day.
That statement is probably what led to lots of people, including me, suggesting other ways to potentially occupy the children.
TBF you're coming across as really rude, however you've said some things that suggest you might also be stressed out about other things too, so I hope you're able to get those sorted out.

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 18:07

@KeinLiebeslied54321 see this is where we’re probably at cross purposes as I’m literally saying ‘I’ve run out of inspiration and I’m just having a few days taking them to soft play, are they going to get bored?’

But others have taken this as ‘I’ve run out of inspiration so please give me ideas.’ That’s fine but I didn’t say it so why get annoyed that most of the suggestions aren’t going to be of interest or practical for us?

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 07/04/2024 18:12

Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 18:07

@KeinLiebeslied54321 see this is where we’re probably at cross purposes as I’m literally saying ‘I’ve run out of inspiration and I’m just having a few days taking them to soft play, are they going to get bored?’

But others have taken this as ‘I’ve run out of inspiration so please give me ideas.’ That’s fine but I didn’t say it so why get annoyed that most of the suggestions aren’t going to be of interest or practical for us?

TBH it makes no difference to me, I'm really just trying to point out how your wording has led to the suggestions.
Do what works for you.

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 18:18

I think unless someone explicitly says that they want suggestions, being offended when someone doesn’t take the suggestions is ridiculous but if people want to stamp their feet and wah wah because someone didn’t find it helpful they can do what works for them too. It makes no difference to me either, i just honestly think ‘grow up.’

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Sagittarius · 07/04/2024 18:34

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I think the only one who needs to grow up is you OP

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 19:00

You grow up

No, you grow up

No, YOU

No, YOU.

I mean, cmon. I never understand this about MN though, I must admit: the amount of wounded egos is crazy. I don’t mind suggestions, just why get all annoyed when they aren’t acted on 🤷

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BlazesBoylansHat · 07/04/2024 19:48

The only one on this entire thread getting annoyed is you OP 🙄
But...whatever...

Previousreligion · 07/04/2024 20:22

My child is a similar age and an average week looks similar to this -

Play date with a friend
Park or local wood
Local sports centre which has a pre-school session with soft play type equipment
Day trip somewhere - NT place, local zoo, farm, in to the local town on the bus, sometimes to London etc.
Library (often have board game mornings and crafts and things).

Apart from the day trip most activities take up the morning. In the afternoon we generally stay at home and play with toys / read / bake etc.

Weekends depend on what my husband is doing. Sometimes swimming, visiting family, or tag teaming so we can do housework.

My child really likes making a map and going around the house to different "zones" and doing activities at each zone. Like dance zone, pirate zone, bouncing zone etc.

Also really likes Jojo and Gran gran which has given us lots of ideas.

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 20:30

BlazesBoylansHat · 07/04/2024 19:48

The only one on this entire thread getting annoyed is you OP 🙄
But...whatever...

More bewildered.

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Tiredalwaystired · 07/04/2024 20:52

Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 17:40

@BlazesBoylansHat I literally ask a question. Do kids get bored doing the same thing every day?

Did I say I wanted pages of long long lists of things we could do instead of soft play? No. Did people give them anyway? Yes. Are people getting pissy because I’m not clicking my fingers and painting non existent fences with water? Yes. Why? Fuck knows!

Fuck me. I made ONE suggestion about the fence. How the hell was I to know you don’t have a fence? Literally just trying to help.

you’re being a real bitch here, OP.

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Blahblahblaaaah · 07/04/2024 20:57

Tiredalwaystired · 07/04/2024 20:52

Fuck me. I made ONE suggestion about the fence. How the hell was I to know you don’t have a fence? Literally just trying to help.

you’re being a real bitch here, OP.

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That wasn’t actually meant to be personal to you and I am sorry. It was meant as more of a generic response about all the suggestions (that I didn’t really want to be honest) but I can see how it looked like I was having a go at you and I’m sorry.

I do a lot with my children but I do find it a bit overwhelming and sometimes frustrating when people reply with endless lists of things, especially when I know they are things mine just wouldn’t do!

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Workawayxx · 07/04/2024 21:08

With those ages I’d honestly do whatever you need to do to get through the day. I actually think routine is quite soothing for small children. It’d be different if they were older. Also hats off to you, I have a 3 and a bit year old who is happy to potter and a 12 year old who has never pottered in his life (I have read a book with littlest around but would never ever have been able to read a book and look after my oldest when he was small!). Just goes to show they’re all different. I think you’re in the trenches and hopefully it’ll get easier when the weather improves and at least in a couple of years time they will be able to play together. I wouldn’t worry at all about them being bored.

ALunchbox · 07/04/2024 21:36

Has your son shown signs of being bored with soft play? If not, I'd personally carry on. I always took the easiest path when it comes to kids, and don't think repetition is a problem per se. It's not as if you are doing it 365 days a year. I'm not sure what people have against soft play anyway. It develops motor skills, taking turns, dealing with other children, it's safe, etc.

If he goes to nursery, does he have a friend he tends to play with.? If so, meeting up with them and their parent (at soft play or other ) might keep both kids entertained?

inappropriateraspberry · 07/04/2024 21:45

Mine would be more bored of going out every day to the same thing than staying at home!
They are very happy at home playing with different toys, playing games, making up their own weird games and stuff. I'd be bored out of my mind going to soft play as well!
I agree that there is no fun trudging about in the rain!
Do a mix of playing with 3yo for a bit, then a bit of tv time, whilst you can do other stuff or concentrate on baby. The more you stay at home, the more they will learn to entertain themselves a little. I think 'over entertainment' has a lot to answer for, creating children that can't be bored for a bit, and use their own minds.

xxxjanxxx · 07/04/2024 22:08

@Blahblahblaaaah IME children like a daily routine. And can enjoy the same thing day after day - depending on the child and their temperament. And you know your children and their responses.

But IME children also pick up on when their parent is fed up with them and at their wits' end and will start to play up because they feel insecure

PP have tried so hard to help you and given suggestions - but you say that's not what you asked for.

The advice you asked for is the help you've been given - you may not have realised you were asking for that help but MN posters have realised what you're asking for.
You're in a vulnerable emotional state now (for whatever reason) and asking if that's going to impact on your children and what you can do.

MN is brilliant for picking up on unspoken problems and on offering advice, without judgement ............... it's your choice whether you choose to listen xx