Please reassure me on my cringe

[SuperSkinnyLatte]

So this is a silly one possibly but I need a bit of reassurance.

I was married for 20 years and separated for 4.

Anyhow I've dipped my toe in the world on online dating and didn't think it would be a big deal... except 😣 my mother has called me to ask me if I'm on 'those dating websites!'

Apparently a friend of my sister showed her my profile and my brother and sister think it's shocking.

I've asked what business my dating/sex life is of theirs but apparently I've made my bed and should lie in it. Ie stay single.

Please tell me I'm overthinking 😬

I'm only 42 and I don't want to be single forever. How else do I meet someone if I don't give this a Go?

Any thoughts?

They think it’s shocking that you’re using online dating sites? It’s an incredibly normal way to find a partner these days! Tell them to jog on! I have attended the weddings of two couples who met on a dating site.

You need this: print it out and hand a copy to anyone who comments.

So your mother called to ask you if you were on a dating site, knowing full well that you're on a dating site and they don't want you to be on a dating site?
Are they comparing a dating site to an Only Fans site?? Do they see a difference?

Tell them to leave you alone, you are living your life as you want to live it and they stopped having a say in your life when you became an adult!

I'd also be having words with the so called "friend" who showed your profile to your sister. Also have a word with your brother & sister who think your profile is "shocking" as you clearly want to improve your profile to attract the right type of bloke/man. If they are just Debbie Downers on you for having a profile, then you just need to ignore, ignore, ignore.

I'd wonder if you were a man whether they would have the same opinion about using dating sites. Do they want you to put an ad in the personals column in the local newspaper instead??

This is one of the many reasons I've avoided OLD. I live in a small area too, and can't abide the thought of 'seeing' people I know on there, and them seeing me. Let alone the ExH

Even if you were 72, you’re still allowed a love life. Tell them to jog on.

It's none of their business. How did your sister's friend see it?
Unless the profile itself is a bit embarrassing, what is there to cringe about?

Shocking you're on the site or shocking due to the photo .... are you flimsily clad? 😁

It's really weird that they think it's weird. What rock have they been living under?!

I've got friends and family in their 70s online dating (and not in the cutesy 'First Dates aren't-they-cute-because-theyre-old' way - just in a really normal way that 20 something's would).

Thank you so much 🙏🏼

It's a very normal profile, no skimpy pictures, just normal unfiltered pictures of me smiling and giving a little bit of info about me and what kind of person I'd like to meet.

Exactly people in their 70's are on dating websites.

Yes family think it's not decent to be 'putting myself out there'

Also agree with the comment that if I was a man it would be different.

Ironically my family attending a wedding recently where they knew they groom, guess where he met his bride?!?

I've asked what business my dating/sex life is of theirs but apparently I've made my bed and should lie in it. Ie stay single.

The 1940s called, they want your family back

I'd ask if they'd like the link to my only fans profile

This made me laugh out loud!!

🤣🙏🏼

Just shows how different families are - my mom used to help me swipe! 🤣

It's nothing to be ashamed of. Almost everybody who finds themselves single these times gives it a go.

Are they very conservative and strict generally? Either way, I do think you need to be very firm with your boundaries here and assert that what you are doing is your business and not up for debate, certainly not something they have the right to shame you for.....

And happy swiping!