Wish i had one more kids

[Pinkii47]

Hi my feeling I wish I had one more I have 2 kids 28yr girl old almost married and 16yr old my 16 boy has ODD ADHA so since 12 was alot of issues tryed to get help but always up to him Australia don't have residential treatment now he is in juvie will he grow our of his mental health so pretty much spent all my energy on him all these yrs would it be different if I had one close to him I'm 47 now regretting i didn't have one more everyone saying no or I can't I get sad. When I see big fam it's drepresssion now and who will look after him if I'm gone is it selfish if I try for one

I have 4 DC and stepkids and still would of liked more, did try but wasnt to be. My 15DS has adhd, autism, touretts and I know when I'm gone he'll be fine. Enjoy the time you have with both your kids, you might even end up with a grandkids. I know I won't get any grandchildren from my 4 but I have step grandkids and sometimes xaneait to send them home so I can clean all the sparkles and glitter away.

Is there a dad on the scene, or where would you be getting one from? If there is a partner around what's their view of it?

That would be very big age gaps. And you committing to another 18+ years of raising a child when you've been doing that for almost 30 years already. Do you want to spend your entire life raising kids? Is this perhaps a reaction to that time of your life ending and you not being sure what to do now? You're at the point most mothers would start to think about being a grandmother as the next step.

Just picking up "who will look after him if I'm gone" - that's not a question pointing you to "if I have another child, the new child will look after my son when I'm gone", right. Because it's baffling to think of having a new baby so in 18+ years time they can look after their 34 year old brother.