Background:
my DH has a crucial and time sensitive work project abroad which means he has to fly out on Sunday for a week. Cannot be moved under any circumstances and key income this year (self employed).
we have two kids (primary school and toddler) and I am from a different EU country. I was going to fly to my home country and stay for a week until DC1 school starts again. It’s a short flight but a long trip afterwards (2-3 hours road or 2-4 hours trains). The last two days DM has booked an expensive themed Hotel in a theme park near the airport. The booking is non refundable and non cancellable.
but I have fallen very ill this week and I am currently in hospital. I am hopeful I can go home today. My expected recovery time is 6 weeks.
I don’t feel well enough to fly and do this journey so soon. DC1 will be very upset and disappointed, was looking forward to it. Dc2 won’t know any different. DM will also be very upset.
I would like to recover in my own home, DC2 can go to nursery, DC1 can do sports club and stay home a bit. Maybe I could fly out on the weekend only, and just do the theme park bit so DM sees the kids and doesn’t lose money on the rooms. I don’t really want to do that but would keep DM and Dc1 happy.
DM also offered to come and “help” but I don’t find her helpful, she doesn’t cook or tidy, she is quite demanding and it would be hard for her to do things alone with DC (she would probably only take DC1 but her English is limited, she can’t use apps like Uber or google maps, half the time her roaming doesn’t work) and frankly having a visitor now would stress me out a lot. She doesn’t think of herself as a visitor, she thinks she is helpful. Age is not an issue, she is young just a bit lazy 😂
so what shall I do? Whatever I decide I feel like I am letting someone down.