Facebook

[Flute56]

Like a lot of people, I use facebook. A added someone I know as a friend and when I looked back to see if theey had accepted my reuest, they had changed their facebook to message only. I have never chanted mine to message only and if anyone who tries to add me onto their facebook I either accept or reject, depending on who they are. I never put mine to message only so noone can add me. I only have close friends on my facebook and am not one of these people who simply adds for the sake of it to show off and boast how popular you are because you have hundreds of pe ople on your FB when in actual fact half the people are people you would never message or contact anyway so whats the point of having them on your fb,.

Anyway the person I added, I thought I had a good raport with and thought I could build up on a friendship through facebook but thats not going to happen now. Maybe the person just does not like me as much as I thought but are quite happy to chat to me in social situations. I just dont get it. What do they think will happen? Will I bombard them with non stop messages? And maybe they just feel that if they just speak to me when they see mea then they cannot be harassed all the time I did email this person about something and they did not reply and when I asked about the email, they said they had been too busy to reply (nobody is that busy its just bad manners to ignore an email) so maybe they think if they had me on their facebook I will be sending the unwanted messages and It will annoy them. I have actually had two people send me fb requests and I accepted and we have never communicated on facebook in months

They don't want you on their FB, they might have views they only share with friends, or only have family on there because there's pictures of the kids, it might just be work based, or they simply might not like you.

They have made it clear now they are happy to chat when they see you, but don't want any friendship outwith whatever you bump onto each other for. That's totally OK.

I think Facebook is a pile of shit, and the more people limit their sharing of their life and family’s lives on it, the better. Real, face to face interactions with people are so much better than the oversharing and fakery and snooping at photos and likes etc. that fb revolves around.

Why does this bother you so much? Everyone uses social media their own way and there is no point trying to compare it to what you would do as they are not you.

I only accept requests from people I'm related to. Friends I talk to through discord exclusively so I'd ignore any friend requests sent. It doesn't mean I don't want to be friends it just means I don't want a random person's stuff showing up on a feed that's meant just for keeping up with family events and pictures.

Have you tried therapy to work on your self esteem? You might benefit from it.

I do not want therapy. I never really wanted to get involved in facebook but someone persuaded me that it wokuld be a good idea for keeping in contact with people, especially overseas. People I know share photos of birthdays or days out or photos of their cat and even their holiday photos. I have never put holiday photos on facebook. I always send them to people personally via wassap

I have also knon a couple of people who have deleted their fb accunt and not bothered with it again

I'm on facebook. I have no facebook friends at all! I only use it for groups and information. I have blocked loads of people who might send me a friend request, because it's awkward declining a request from someone you know and like. Maybe your friend uses facebook in a similar way to me?