Concert abroad booked but I don't want to leave DD

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I have a 2.5 year old and 9 month old. Late last year DP booked us tickets to go to a concert abroad at the end of May. At the time I said okay as by then youngest DD will be 11 months and I thought I might be okay leaving her, but to tonight we went to book our flights and accommodation and I have stalled DP on it, saying we'll do it tomorrow. The truth is that I don't want to leave DD. The kids would be with my parents and I know that DD 2.5 would be fine but I still feel like the baby is too young. She's breastfed although will take a bottle when I'm not around, but will still look for the boob during the night and the thought of her waking up and me not being there to comfort her makes me feel awful.
I know that DP will be annoyed if I don't want to go though, it is a band he has been wanting to see forever and the tickets cost close to £500!
When we booked I thought we'd be okay as I know lots of people who left their babies for a weekend when they were even younger but it just doesn't feel okay for me. However the other aspect of it is that DP and I have been struggling with aspects of our relationship (as well as our DC we have my stepkids full time so rarely get any time together at all and the weight of things has been having an impact) and I know that a couple of nights away together without kids would be very good for us.

Does anyone have any experiences they can share or advice?

Don't go. You won't enjoy it and it will end in arguments.

Get him to go with a friend instead. You aren't stopping him from going.

Problem solved.

I'd say your options are:

Night-wean the baby now so she's not looking for you through the night. Leave her with your parents for a night beforehand so you can make sure she'll be ok.

Take her with you and use a babysitter for the night of the concert.

Tell DP to go with a friend.

Sell the tickets and get the money back and do something with DP later in the year/next year.

"and I know that a couple of nights away together without kids would be very good for us."

This is the part you need to focus on!
The baby will be with her grandparents who she presumably knows already?
You could even build up to it by trialing a one-night stay in the coming few weeks.
It sounds like both you and your partner really need this time away together.

I wouldn't go. Let dh take a mate. I left my ds when he was 14 months old with my dh and went away for a long weekend and I just wanted to get home. I still feel guilty about leaving him. The problem at that age is that you can't explain that you are going and will come back, so I think it is upsetting for children. Once they have more langauge and you can explain then its fine.I know lots of people do leave babies, but I would trust your instinct if you don't want to go.

I would night wean her before ypu go otherwise your parents may be in for a very rough ride!
Your kids will ve fine.it would be very wrong and unfair on upur dh to cancel.

I don't think it's great to leave your baby at that age to go abroad sorry.