Just want a break?

[Sooooootired01]

Anyone else feel like this?
I'm a teacher, 43, with a 3 yo and two teenagers for some of the time. Very happily (re)married.
I know I have the school holidays, but as my daughter's preschool is only term-time it basically feels like I'm swapping one job for another. Hubby working all of the two weeks I am "off." This week I'm trying to fit in all of the household cleaning and jobs as well as keeping everyone happy. We can't afford a cleaner.
I would literally like ONE day where I'm not being mum or teacher and just chill. Maybe watch a movie or put my feet up. Just a battery recharge.
Is this selfish?

Could you have any time for yourself at the weekend even if it means you go out somewhere on your own?

@SunnySunnySunny Possibly, but not sure what I could do by myself? I have the odd short trips to the shops every now and again but that gets a bit samey?

No of course it’s not selfish! It’s entirely human. I’m 47 and have a 5 yo and a teen, so I know how it is — you’re up at 6am with the youngest, and the teen wants picking up from somewhere at 10pm so it’s a long day. It does get easier once the little one is at school - that’s extra maturity makes a massive difference (my ds can get his breakfast, remembers to clean teeth, dress and put on shoes and coat when asked and I can leave him in the bath for a few mins while I dash the vacuum round, put away laundry or clean the loos and tidy upstairs.

I had a FT job that was working out to be minimum 55 hours a week, so I quit. I made myself afford a cleaner, as otherwise I’d never have tidied up and we’d have been living in a hovel!

I am about to recommence FT work and slightly dreading it tbh. I have had two months off and it has been absolutely blissful just having to be mum and housekeeper!

It will come, dont worry. Faster than you expect

A nice walk, a lunch out, spa day, lock yourself in your bedroom with a tablet and binge Netflix and have a long bath while your DH has the DC, a lay in, meet a friend on a weekend or one evening, a trip to the cinema on your own.

Ah thanks all; I do feel sometimes like I'm wrong to feel this way and should just "suck it up."
Being a older working mum is so hard at times!! Hubby is nearing 50 and not well so don't think that helps...
@UndecidedAboutEverything Exactly that! My sleep is terrible!! I can't tell you how reassuring it is to hear from someone in a similar position. Thank you 💐

You had a third baby with, I assume, your older second husband. Of course you're tired.

@anythinginapinch Indeed, but in reality she's my/our "only" child.

So you're looking after his teenage kids from an earlier marriage??

@anythinginapinch My kids, one with me every other week and the other eow. Our daughter is his first and last.

So you have three kids. You were almost out of the woods so to speak... then wham you sent straight back to the exhaustion of young child. What were you thinking!!

@anythinginapinch I absolutely don't regret it; he's an incredible father and our daughter is very lucky! But yes, it's exhausting.

How old are your teenagers? Could they babysit so that you have some time off or can focus on household stuff for a bit?

@Cornishmumofone One is 13 so not really capable, and I only see my 16 yo every other weekend so try to maximise that precious time with him if that makes sense?